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    Making Decisions in Relationships

    Hello everyone,

    I think this is a topic that goes hand in hand with gender roles. Who do you think should make the majority of decisions (or have the last word) in relationships? Do you support a traditional role where the man is the head of the family, or perhaps a modern role where the woman makes more decisions? Maybe a compromise? Please share your view.

    Thanks in advance.

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    Although roles and obligations should be fairly divided according to gender role, the man should have the title as head of the family. A relationship is destined to fail so long as the woman claims independance. I know that sounds bad but if you look at divorce and single parent rates in the west where women are raised to be pseudomen in the work force, the average relationship is destined to fail. It's only in rogue sects like mormonism that families seem to survive.

    I know it sounds nasty but these days men have sworn off relationships and children and see women as sex objects thanks to the growing number of women using the legal system as a means of living.

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    It leads to a lot more arguments, if both believe they are to be the final decision maker. Of course, sensible men will allow women to make decisions on things which fall within their gender roles, that the woman cares or knows a lot about and/or the man doesn't, and in general not be overly controlling. It's just to prevent a shouting match every time a minor crisis comes along, it is sensible to allow the less emotional person the authority to make the decision.
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    I think the idea that the man has the total authority is a "tradition" created by the Christian church, traditionally women had many more rights and were responsible for much more, any decision concerning the home was hers and hers alone as this area was her responsibility as women now have responsibilities in other areas they also must have a say in these areas, and equally if the man has duties in the home then he gets a say there too.

    A relationship will not work unless it is fair, especially now that the woman actually get a choice of whether she wants to stay with the partner. So after all that I think that decisions should be made in tandem after all if you can't come to an agreement with your partner what are you doing with them in the first place?

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    I would like to note that thus far the poll is almost completely segregated by sex. Makes me wonder if both sides feel they don't have enough control. I feel such a mutual desire would be the result of humanity being force fed into the modernist ideology and then attempting to house a family in this unnatural setting.

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    It sounds paradox to my ears, that a decision could be made by more than one party.
    Such a "decision" is called a compromise then, and is mostly, if not always, the worst of all.

    That said, it can't be anyone else but the man, women in general are too egoistic in nature.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leof View Post
    I would like to note that thus far the poll is almost completely segregated by sex. Makes me wonder if both sides feel they don't have enough control. I feel such a mutual desire would be the result of humanity being force fed into the modernist ideology and then attempting to house a family in this unnatural setting.
    Well, two women voted in favor of men and one man voted in favor of both. No one voted in favor of women.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nachthimmel View Post
    Well, two women voted in favor of men and one man voted in favor of both. No one voted in favor of women.
    Well I think that is a sign of a general consensus in that respect.

    Women should make the household decisions. It was a custom in Norse society that the woman of the household carried the keys of the house with her. Men, who typically and traditionally are the bread winners of the family would have decisions that involve financial impacts. To me this seems a fair go.

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    By both, it just depends what issue it is about. If it's something my husband knows better about, he makes the decision and vice versa. My husband almost always lets me decide what's for dinner, because he doesn't care most times to give you an example.

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