View Poll Results: Who should make the majority of decisions in a relationship?

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  • The man.

    21 32.81%
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  • Both.

    38 59.38%
  • Other (please explain).

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Thread: Making Decisions in Relationships

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    I support the traditional pre-Christian Germanic view: The woman (or the partner at home) has full say over the household and home. The man (or the partner winning the bread) has full say over external affairs and the budget. If either also has responsibilities in one of the other's allocated domains, then decisions as to that responsibility should be finalised by that person. Easy as that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Nachthimmel View Post
    Well, two women voted in favor of men and one man voted in favor of both. No one voted in favor of women. :p
    It's because this is a public poll. But then again this is a public thread... So I'll spill the beans.. I find a woman in control can be a huge turn-on, so long as they are not emotionally distant and/or a looney tune.. which is a big so long as

    i.e. I know this one woman who is very organised and business-like, which intrigued me at first, but then when I realised that she was like that all the time where she never ever took a break... Then that was a real turn-off.
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    I'm for matriarchy.

    Joking, I think it should be both, depending on the matter. Some men know little about homemaking but others know more for example.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr. Solar Wolff View Post
    Some situations call for male dominance, some for a woman's touch. For instance, when to change the motor oil in the car is my decision. What is for dinner is my wife's.
    This is the way my husband and I handle things. He actually divides problems into categories, man's work and women's work For example, he doesn't want to help me pick out new drapes and I couldn't care less what kind of oil goes into the car. I actually tried to buy blinker fluid at the car store when our blinker broke one time!

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    What's wrong with a man cooking? It's a very manly thing to fire up a barbeque and roast some pork.

    I made chocolate chip cookies the other day and my sexuality wasn't harmed. My girlfriend said that I'm a better cook than she is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TheGreatest View Post
    What's wrong with a man cooking? It's a very manly thing to fire up a barbeque and roast some pork.

    I made chocolate chip cookies the other day and my sexuality wasn't harmed. My girlfriend said that I'm a better cook than she is.
    Quite honestly I would probably cry if my husband baked cookies, wondering why he didn't simply ask me to. He tried to mop my kitchen one time early in our relationship while I was at the market and he had to deal with a crying girlfriend for an hour lol. He stays out of the kitchen now.

    And as far as the barbecue thing, it's more work for me when it's barbecue night, lol. Between the potato salad, coleslaw, readying the meat and keeping the kids in order, it's easier for me to just make a roast!

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    Both of course.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nachthimmel View Post
    Do you support a traditional role where the man is the head of the family
    No.

    Quote Originally Posted by Nachthimmel View Post
    or perhaps a modern role where the woman makes more decisions?
    No.

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    Maybe a compromise?
    Yes.

    The idea that only one partner should make all decisions concerning the relationship is preposterous, because the relationship itself consists of two partners. What if the other partner doesn't agree with the decision and has a different opinion? So it can't be anything but a compromise, anything else doesn't work.

    I don't decide anything concerning my relationship without my man's consent and he doesn't decide anything concerning our relationship without my consent. That's quite logical.

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    Decision making is not a one person process in a serious relationship. If one person makes all of the decisions without consulting the other, this could not only lead to resentment but also negates the idea of partnership. Also, each gender has some traits that are essential to decision making. Depending on the type of decision, it may be better of made by a particular gender, but should always be influenced by the opinion of the other.

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    Whenever I get involved in a relationship. I will always make sure I instigate dialogue about any major decision we are to make if the woman does not present her case. I would never want to dominate the course of events. I would not even want a woman who submits to every call I make. If she is to be with me she is going to be brilliant in her own right and we will come to an agreement as to what choice is made.

    Also, whatever decision I make will be centered around her best interest.

    The order of priority is: Her, than me. She becomes the center of my universe.

    Although I know that when a women is in a relationship the order does not reverse itself, it remains: Her, than me. The woman always being the center of her universe.
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    I think whoever wins the debate/argument should get his/her way.

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