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    Quote Originally Posted by Goomer View Post
    The kinds of guys women are likely to pick up in bars or parties are generally not the kinds of guys women want if they are looking for a serious relationship. Plus, if the men in your area all SUCK.....or if you're really busy as a second year medical student (which I was at the time I met my husband)....these sites can actually help out.

    Of course....you have to go through the march of the losers for a time or two before you get lucky. I met seven weirdos before meeting my husband
    This is the reason I have quit internet dating.
    Women consider you to be a loser or a weirdo if she don`t find you attractive. Unfortunaley, internet dating reveals the ugliest sides among hypergamous females. I am sure that these "weirdos" Goomer refers to (at least some of them) where normal guys who she just loathed because they maybe where shy or physically unattractive.

    Internet dating is just a big scam if you are not an alpha-male.

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    Well, from what I can recall of Goomer she was pretty weird herself so I'd have thought 'weirdos' would have been a perfect match for her

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    Internet dating sites feed on looks, there's usually not much realistic chance to get to know ppl, converse and communicate in meaningful ways. I kind of agree that unless you're hawt you're wasting your time.

    Besides, for every female member who has a few remotely redeeming qualities (personality, looks, rich dad etc) there are probably a 100 or more guys (full spectrum from freaks to nerds) hitting them up. It's a numbers game, the numbers are rigged against you.

    Then of course, the dating site wants your money. They lure you in with bs free offers but it's usually more or less useless and unusable unless you hand over money. And once you do, you'll find it's still near useless

    You're better off meeting somebody somewhere, spending the time on getting to know them than wasting time on a dating site imo. Unless you're "hawt" and only looking to "hook up".
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    I work with a guy who met his wife on that eHarmony website and they've been married for several years. Dunno, dating sites seem alright and might be worth a try if a couple meaningfully pursues a relationship.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Out of Germania View Post
    I'm that way too, when you have life experience to prove it, then the burden of proof lays on the other.

    In fairy tales there's always the man who proves that not all are the same. Well where is he? I haven't met him yet?

    Too few people share any world views and when we find any who fit near the description, like here, on a forum like Skadi, they're too far away to consider everything..
    If you do find that someone, and he happens to live on the other side of the world, and one (or both) of you is able and willing to move.. take the chance. When it comes to love you have to be willing to take chances, take risks.

    Long distance relationships suck and I'm in no way interested in them, so when I met my man who happens to live 5520 miles away from me I decided to start the process of moving to him. No way is distance going to keep me from being with the one man I need in my life. I might have to give up all the material stuff I have here in Scandinavia, my apartment, my furniture, my car - but what are those things really worth in comparsion to what is waiting for me across the ocean? Obviously I'll be moving farther away from "everything I know" and my brother and parents here in Scandinavia, but I can fly to see them whenever I want to, and they can come visit me too. Detaching yourself from your parents a bit is usually a good thing for an adult anyway.

    I think the choice of moving becomes even easier when the world around you is as fucked up as it is, I don't feel that I absolutely have to stay where I am because everything's so "great and wonderful", because that's not the case. But me and my man will always have the choice to move back here in case we feel we want to or need to.

    Not saying this is something that works for everyone, some might not want to leave the country, culture, language and traditions they grew up with, not even for that one, true love. It's just a choice you have to make if you end up in that situation.
    For me that's not an issue. For me home is that one special person, not a place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs vonTrep View Post
    If you do find that someone, and he happens to live on the other side of the world, and one (or both) of you is able and willing to move.. take the chance. When it comes to love you have to be willing to take chances, take risks.
    Sure, I'm glad it worked out for you and I hope you won't be disappointed in the end, but how many cases on average have a happy ending? We have enough crumbled relationships as it is, to add sacrificing and risking an entire life of accomplishments over an Internet relationship.

    Long distance relationships suck and I'm in no way interested in them, so when I met my man who happens to live 5520 miles away from me I decided to start the process of moving to him. No way is distance going to keep me from being with the one man I need in my life. I might have to give up all the material stuff I have here in Scandinavia, my apartment, my furniture, my car - but what are those things really worth in comparsion to what is waiting for me across the ocean? Obviously I'll be moving farther away from "everything I know" and my brother and parents here in Scandinavia, but I can fly to see them whenever I want to, and they can come visit me too. Detaching yourself from your parents a bit is usually a good thing for an adult anyway.

    I think the choice of moving becomes even easier when the world around you is as fucked up as it is, I don't feel that I absolutely have to stay where I am because everything's so "great and wonderful", because that's not the case. But me and my man will always have the choice to move back here in case we feel we want to or need to.
    You're at the point of leaving your country and material possessions behind for the guy, and you have an extra reason that the world is fucked up anyway. That's a good extra reason but not an easy choice.

    Most women, especially who had bad experiences will back down, especially because they didn't have the experience to live with the guy before, know how he is really like in some private situations.

    To you the risk may be worthy, but women who are wounded by bad experiences have to assume, it won't work out. Then they have to move back and there is nothing waiting for them...

    Don't mean to be negative but do you have a plan B in case it doesn't work out?

    Not saying this is something that works for everyone, some might not want to leave the country, culture, language and traditions they grew up with, not even for that one, true love. It's just a choice you have to make if you end up in that situation.
    For me that's not an issue. For me home is that one special person, not a place.
    Not for everyone, this is true. Don't get me wrong, I would hope most Internet relationships between people of Germanic heritage worked out. Infact I'm hoping maybe they could be encouraged more, but we need to think of a system that builds trust and minimizes the risks so that good Germanic people don't get taken advantage of.

    If this was made somehow into a business, or we had a wealthy sponsor, it could actually boost birth rates and quality ones. Like first creating a platform like matchmaking.com, for Germanic people only, financing flights and gas, providing some accommodation and social events for Germanics who wanted to meet and perhaps spend a few days with eachother, some of the risks would be eliminated. It's an idea, but at the moment not very realistic.

    Without the risks and losses eliminated, like what if he doesn't like me, I'll lose my money be alone and uncomfortable, the idea more frequently than not flies out the window, even if we hear about happy cases. And a happy case if when the couple has at least 4-5 years of living together, in my opinion at least, even then it could go wrong.

    For jealous people I guess, an Internet romance would be almost impossible to lead.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mrs vonTrep View Post
    I might have to give up all the material stuff I have here in Scandinavia, my apartment, my furniture, my car - but what are those things really worth in comparsion to what is waiting for me across the ocean?
    Hmm, I applaud your bravery for such a decision. I don't think I could be able to leave all this behind for someone else, especially across another continent.

    I've thought of the idea to move for myself, not for somebody else, and if the person happened to live in my possible areas to move I could consider it, but to change my life 180 degrees for an Internet relationship seems a little bit scary and risky, I've to agree.

    Could I ask you, if you don't mind some questions, have you and your partner met personally before making this decision? How was the decision made about who has to move? Was it a mutual decision or mostly your decision?

    I'm thinking because of the decreased number of good young Germanic men in my area it could become an option for me one day, however hopefully inside Europe.

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    Just because we happened to meet online doesn't mean we have an "internet relationship". An internet relationship sounds like two people who only know each other through internet, which is not the case for us. Our relationship is very much like all other relationships we just happen not to live on the same street at the moment, but how many does that these days? Instead of it taking 1 hour of driving to see each other, it takes 12 hours by plane - which isn't an issue at all really. It's actually better as it's so exciting to see all these new things in a new country, that's one of the benefits - much more interesting than meeting someone from the next village. He gets to show me where he grew up, all these great places we'll both share in the future, and I do the same with him everytime he comes to visit me.

    Meeting online also helped so much in getting to know each other. I have never in my life gotten to know another man the way I got to know him. We didn't have the choice of just relaxing on the couch watching movies the first few months before we met for the first time, so we talked and talked and talked instead. About everything! I've never talked like this, about all these things, with any boyfriend who lived close. And therefore also never got as close to them.

    Big surprises later in life because we never talked about certain important things - because we were physically together, we didn't "need" to talk or we just forgot about it and life went on until the day the surprises started popping up and we realized we didn't know each other as well as we thought. I don't need that anymore. I've been hurt too but I'm not going to sit around being all negative about men in general and claim that they're all the same. Instead, I'm going to go for the man I need in my life and take a chance by moving countries. To most of you it seems to be a big deal - to me it's not a big deal at all, especially since being over there so much that it now feels like home anyway.

    This isn't some random "Oh I met this guy online, had a relationship online and now I'll move and hope that we'll get along!". That's what Philippinos do, for economical reasons.

    Siebenbürgerin: He was very willing to move here too if that's what it'd take for us to be together. Without going into specifics he just has much more to lose by moving. I only have my apartment and my car. Not even a stable job, and if he were to move here he'd have issues finding a job too as he doesn't speak the language. So basically, the choice was very easy that way. There are other reasons for me to move as well, such as better gun- and free speech laws, I think he'd feel quite chained living here. Sweden isn't exactly paradise these days, there are many things I won't miss..

    But like I said, we can move back to Sweden anytime we like if it comes to that, depending on how things turn out. This isn't exactly anything that has to be permanent by any means, we can do exactly what we want, whenever we want. He has already found himself a place in Sweden where he wants to live when he retires.

    I totally understand what you mean when you talk about not finding good enough Germanic men in your area, it's the same thing here. What I found in my American guy is something I haven't been able to find in a Swedish guy. Many American men seem more traditional, more masculine, not afraid of commitment and so on. I got tired of meeting boys rather than men, those who don't care one bit about their heritage and who'd rather play with their Playstation than commit to the relationship.

    Obviously I'm generalizing, I hope the Swedish men on here don't get offended. Besides, we all have different preferences, what I want or don't want might be very different from what other women want.
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