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    In this age of utter ethnic, cultural, and spiritual catastrophe it could be hard to find any two that agree on anything. I remember laying in bed with my ( soon to be ) wife. We were talking about ghosts, other supernormal happenings , and God. Me coming from a wholeheartedly felt Nietzsche position where “God is Dead” ( there are no absolutes (Myth ( poetry interpreted as fact or poetry as poetry )) -beyond good and evil (Morality) -society/relationships founded on oaths only “those” who have the power to will every moment keep (Mankind surpassed).. ) I posed the question “ Is the Truth the Truth, or is my truth my truth and your truth your truth ? “ Her answer was the latter. She must be a Superwoman !!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cythraul View Post
    Could you have a relationship with someone who has a vastly different spiritual belief system to you?

    I've always found it strange when I see people in these kinds of relationships - particularly if one person is Christian and the other Hindu for example. How could you ever hope to raise a child in a sane manner when it is bombarded with conflicting religious views from both parents? How about a diehard atheist in love with a strict Catholic... could that ever be true love - in the sense that you absolutely, completely respect your partner?

    I'm interested in everyone's views on this.
    I don't spiritual conflicts are serious issues. I have known quite a few mixed "spiritual" marriages. :eek::p. Catholic with Protestant, Protestant with Agnostic ect. My parents are both Catholics but my Dad barely goes to Church while my mom goes to church every Sunday. They have been happily married for 20+ years now.

    Usually its a question of Dominance either that or Finances or dominance over finances rather.

    When relationships don't work I feel its because two people never knew each other well enough in the first place, they had unrealistice expectations and idealisms about their partner and were never ready to make the sacrifices and compromises that need to be made if a relationship is to work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cythraul View Post
    Could you have a relationship with someone who has a vastly different spiritual belief system to you?

    Like others have already said, I think it would be nearly impossible, but I suppose degree of religiosity plays a role, too.


    Quote Originally Posted by Cythraul View Post
    I've always found it strange when I see people in these kinds of relationships - particularly if one person is Christian and the other Hindu for example. How could you ever hope to raise a child in a sane manner when it is bombarded with conflicting religious views from both parents?
    That would be madness, in my opinion. For instance, for Catholics who wish to marry in the Church, such a marriage would require a dispensation (disparity of cult) from the local Bishop. The Catholic party would have to make a declaration and promise that any children born of the marriage would be baptised and raised in the Catholic faith.

    Even when both spouses are Catholic, there are varying degrees of adherence and commitment to the Faith which can make raising a child challenging.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cythraul View Post
    How about a diehard atheist in love with a strict Catholic... could that ever be true love - in the sense that you absolutely, completely respect your partner?

    I think this scenario wouldn't advance very far if the Catholic possessed a well-informed conscience and actually practised the Faith, and not one who was just born into a predominantly Catholic culture or for whom Catholicism is merely an inherited part of cultural identity. I suspect the diehard atheist's interest would dissipate if there wasn't any prospect of premarital sex.
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    I have seen marriages fall apart because of religious beliefs, especially between Catholics and Protestants.
    Religious beliefs should be binding. My wife and I are both non-denominational.

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    No spiritual conflict in my marriage whatsoever.

    My wife’s a Christian and I’m a Pagan and we just don’t believe each other’s fables, that’s all.

    It depends how seriously you take this stuff, but why exclude maybe 50% of the opposite sex just because of differing religious views? It seems a bit daft to me, in the same way as it would be ridiculous to rule out a relationship with someone who supports another football team.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cythraul View Post
    Could you have a relationship with someone who has a vastly different spiritual belief system to you?
    It depends. I was in a relationship for more than 7 years with an Orthodox Christian, while I am a Heathen, and it worked out fine spiritually. But he was not dogmatic, he was also very open about polytheistic religions, being interested in Hinduism. When celebrating Christmas, for example, we were celebrating different things, but we were doing it together. We were also celebrating together solstices and equinoxes. I guess I could say he was a bit of a Heathen too, even though he considered himself a Christian. We had a spiritual relationship, because none of us was dogmatic, and we were both seeing the big picture, not being lost in too many details.

    Spirituality is a very important part of my life, so it's important for me to be in a spiritual couple, and to share at least some believes and be tolerant enough one with each other about the others.
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