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    Emotional Connections with People on Forums

    Don't you ever get bored of talking a forum? I never get past 100 post when I join a forum. I just lose interest too quickly. I can't imagine how people accumulate hundreds or thousands of posts and still maintain an interest.

    It's difficult for me to understand how people can have an emotional connection with other people on a forum with whom they never even met in person. The way some people talk with each other it's like they are life long best pals.

    I may be in a minority in this as I am not a very social kind of person anyway but am content to have just a few close friends and am not overlykeen on meeting and talking with strangers.

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    A forum is usually where people of similar interests get together to talk about things that well... interest them. And people love to talk about themselves so they connect this way very easily (because they are similar in interests and possibly life experiences).

    I don't know about an entirely emotional connection exclusively on webfora, I would say that it can happen over other online media as well (IM, "social networking", online dating, MMORPGs, etc.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Corin View Post
    Don't you ever get bored of talking a forum? I never get past 100 post when I join a forum. I just lose interest too quickly. I can't imagine how people accumulate hundreds or thousands of posts and still maintain an interest.
    I go through phases. Sometimes I can make 300 posts in one month, sometimes I'll only make 10 in a month, it's just depends on what's happening in my (real) life at the time, what sort of topics are being discussed, who's discussing them, who are the core posters, etc. But like in my personal life, when I'm a member of a forum or networking site or whatever, I tend to make a few very close friends instead of having many casual acquaintances, and they're usually a big part of why I stay interested

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    I like discussing certain topics, so I end up posting to participate in those discussions, not sure if I would call it an 'emotional attachment' really. I have met up with a lot of people from my computer gaming clan and other nationalist forums.
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    The first forum I ever registered at, in 2004, was Skadi.

    Should it have been otherwise, I might have grown tired of fora.

    I have never been able to "connect" with online acquaintances in other fora, I get easily bored and discouraged by the low level of discussion (topics, language, bad sense of humor).

    But there was something about the Skadi (and Skadi-related) community(ies), and consequently The Althing community as well, that makes me keep coming back.

    I've said it before, it's the combination of friendliness and coziness with the intellect and the high-brow discussions.
    It's the endless laughs combined with all the learning, as well as the personalities and humor of most members, that make me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. :p

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    I do neither have any emotional connection to people I meet over fora nor do I have any emotional connection to the vast majority I know in real life but I do have an emotional connection with people I know in the internet and I might have met them in fora or elsewhere. I live in small village and I'm too different to my peers so I have infact no real life and the internet is the only place for me to find like minded people. I found many acquaintances through fora and other platforms and even a hand full of real friends. I have even been able to meet some of those in real life aswell.
    I guess it varies from person to person whether you can relate to people from the internet or not but I can definately say that the internet made my life more worth living compared with my total soltitude I had before.
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    Emotional connection for someone I know strictly on a forum? Not really. In all honesty, I do get emotional responses to certain posts, but that happens with any breed of my readings. I have a bad habit of gaining respect for people because I like how or what they write--more often than not, people who sound well composed on fora seem like they couldn't write the same thing in any matter of hours when you meet them. It's easy enough just to type words, but unless people have to back them up in real life, they mean very little.

    I can't really feel anything for someone unless we have some sort of real-time communication, at least chatting on the phone. People who just type to me--neh. Having a dynamic conversation with someone is necessary for me, I don't want to guess if they're taking time to think about what they're saying or if they're just a slow typer. I want to be able to hear emotions and emphasis. People, in many cases, seem to have entirely different intelligence levels between their spoken and written selves.

    One of the smartest men I have ever met cannot compose himself properly on fora... in all honesty, he writes like a total retard. In fact, we started talking because his choice of punctuation was ticking me off. I felt nothing for him at that point, but before leaving that forum, I gave him my YIM name, then he gave me his number, we started talking and we realized we had met eachother at a group event before, we became close friends, and we still are good friends.

    In contrast, one guy on a forum who I was convinced was totally brilliant wound up being just a few hairs above a waste of time. We were friends for a while, I guess. Now... uh... we sort of just acknowledge that either of us exist, still.


    So, a forum is enough to get me to take interest in getting to know someone, but I don't believe I actually know the people I meet on forums until I meet them in real life and spend an adequate amount of time with them. I'd consider considering people here friends, but I wouldn't consider them friends, to this point.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Janus View Post
    I guess it varies from person to person whether you can relate to people from the internet or not but I can definately say that the internet made my life more worth living compared with my total soltitude I had before.

    Well, my life in comparison with yours, isn't total solitude for sure (i practice many activities in real life and i know a good amount of peoples). However i agree with you : internet made my life much more interesting (perhaps more worth living. Although it's a very complex statement).

    I hardly could find many other peoples in the real life with similar interests....

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    I may not have many posts yet on this account, but I had thousands of posts and am sure many know me from other forums. I even met my husband on a forum (the Nordish Portal). I've been in around since the Aryan Dawn days, to the Nordish Portal, Skadi, and had originally joined Stormfront in 2001, where I no longer read or post.

    The interest for me is because I rarely, if ever, meet intelligent people or anyone with even remotely similar interests to me in real life. We can discuss the things that interest us the most together, and people will actually comprehend what I am saying and are able to discuss deeper issues. It's also quite entertaining and suspenseful to get into internet debates with people, and come up with evidence to substantiate my viewpoint, or maybe even learn a thing or two from them.

    However, I don't usually form as deep of a connection with people on the forums as I do with people whom I chat to. MSN is great for that. It's fun inviting a whole bunch of people and having a group chat. That said, there are some people from forums who I like and respect very much.

    Forums also are a place to see news and everything relating to that particular subject in one place, which saves me a large amount of the time and effort of having to look it up myself. It's like a concentration of relevant information and like-minded people all in one place, which can be endlessly fascinating, unless said forum degenerates or the best people leave, or too many of the worse people clog it up and it stops being relevent to my viewpoint. Whenever that happens, I simply leave and join another forum.

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    Back on Skadi, I made several friends, and got quite close to a few, even having telephone conversations with one wonderful lassie, who I've been missing lately, sob...

    It takes a long time to get to that stage though, and I had a lot of free time last year when I was between jobs and girlfriends, and it's a bit odd coming back after such a while, when there are new people and you've got a bit out of touch with the older members. And it's doubly confusing when some people keep changing their usernames and avatars!

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