Adoption

[Thusnelda]

I wouldn´t adopt a child under all circumstances. Even if I were unable to bear children, I wouldn´t want to adopt one.

It´s very important to me that the child is MY child, and that I´m the biological mother. Its something very emotional, and this is absolutely important to me. For me it is unthinkable that I would adopt a child from an other mother and father. Better no children than foreign children.

[Gefjon]

If circumstances made it impossible for you to have a child biologically, would you consider adoption? I have been considering adoption for a while in case I cannot find the right man to have a family with. What do you believe are the pros and cons of adoption?

I wouldn't want a child that had no blood of mine or of my husband's.

Besides (much more controversial)....you can't have children, but your partner CAN.......you would ask him/her to renounce his biological line for the relation with you ?

(visa-versa) More difficult : You CAN have children, but your partner CAN'T. You accept to renounce to have YOUR own biological children and adopt one to keep your union with your partner ?


These interrogatives are a bit off topic but i'd like to know some answer anway.....

This is what I'd do: if I couldn't have kids, I'd prefer that my husband had kids with another woman (a woman who, for whatever reason, doesn't want kids for herself, but CAN have them) and viceversa. We'd raise them together. It's important to me that our kids carry at least one of their parent's blood.

[Zimobog]

Seems like some folks here aer talking about if they would leave a sterile partner or not in order to have a bio-kid....

My question is if fertility is a factor in the relationship, why not go to the doctor and together discover any problems before consumation? Genetic problems are also latent to casual "dating" type conversation eyes:, but these things (family history of birthing problems, genetic defects, infertility) seem to be crucial to selecting a mate. I wouldn't even date someone with birthing issues, my kids have wide shoulders and so this wouldn't do.

In the case of my wife and I, rather than be parted by potential reproductive problems, made a plan before we were married of what would happen in the case of problems with one of us but not the other.

We decided that if I was infertile, geneticly defunct, etc. that a married and fertile family friend would sire "my" children with my wife. So basically, the plan was for a surroguate in either case.

But no problems arose and we now have two kids.