View Poll Results: Spare the Rod or Spoil the Child?

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  • Some Spanking for Discipline has never damaged a child's later life.

    100 70.92%
  • I would never spank my children, that's too old-fashioned and not good.

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  • I don't know yet and I don't want to think about it now.

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    The problem with authoritarian parenting is that such parents are usually highly demanding but not very responsive. Studies have found that children raised in an authoritarian manner tend to be timid, have low self-esteem, higher levels of depression, lack spontaneity and rely to an unusual degree on the voice of authority.

    Permissive parenting on the other hand may result in children that feel over-entitled to privileges and material goods. Even if the parents try to regain control as some point, the older child will probably perceive that effort to be a power struggle. Children of permissive parents often act in reckless ways, exhibiting sexual rebellion, unsavory associates, or substance abuse. They also tend to perform less well in school, though they have higher self-esteem, better social skills, and lower levels of depression than the children of authoritarian parents.

    I believe the ideal way to parent is by finding a balance between those styles. This style is known as authoritative parenting. Authoritative parents retain the authority and control of authoritarian parenting but are warmer and more communicative than the former. Such parents seek a balance between their children's obedience and their desire for independence and learning. They are both demanding and responsive. They can be assertive but not intrusive or restrictive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible and self-regulated as well as cooperative. They have high expectations of their children but allow and even encourage more freedom of expression. Consequently, the child is more likely to develop a sense of responsibility and independence. Children of authoritative parents tend to develop into more competent adults than children brought up in other styles.

    Some information on authoritative parenting here: What Is Authoritative Parenting? [With Examples]

    Another article I found helpful: Yelling at Your Children Humiliates Them

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    When I have kids, I plan on being a very permissive parent. There are very few things that I wouldn't tolerate my children doing, and I won't be very demanding with regards to their academics either.

    But there are a few things that I would absolutely not tolerate, such as transgenderism or other far-left abominations.

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    To be honest, I have no general "problem" with spanking own children, but have done so only once. Though, it was less of a punishment: Many years ago one of our children, four or five years old then, was going wild in anger and we were very near a very frequented street, so I gave a little slap on the butt for calming down because of the danger of getting run over by cars and busses.

    Generally speaking, I think it is most important to be a good example and to stay consistent. Reminding time after time to "whatever" (being polite, cleaning up your own mess and so on). If you are capable of this, there should be no need for bodily actions. At least with my children and so far.

    Slapping is cheap, educating is not.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lichtblick View Post
    To be honest, I have no general "problem" with spanking own children, but have done so only once. Though, it was less of a punishment: Many years ago one of our children, four or five years old then, was going wild in anger and we were very near a very frequented street, so I gave a little slap on the butt for calming down because of the danger of getting run over by cars and busses.

    Generally speaking, I think it is most important to be a good example and to stay consistent. Reminding time after time to "whatever" (being polite, cleaning up your own mess and so on). If you are capable of this, there should be no need for bodily actions. At least with my children and so far.

    Slapping is cheap, educating is not.
    Spanking is necessary at times. In my family some kids are more "woelerig" (energetic, like myself was) and that means they need to be disciplined physically more than others. It even helps with the development of character. The laissez fair approach will produce weak personalities (and it has - possibly that was the whole purpose of it). Someone that experienced violent punishment in his upbringing, will have not as big a problem facing it in public life. And well, less problem using it, which is a virtue in itself.

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