View Poll Results: Spare the Rod or Spoil the Child?

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  • Some Spanking for Discipline has never damaged a child's later life.

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  • I would never spank my children, that's too old-fashioned and not good.

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    Such an important question! BRAVO! The answer is it generally depends on their arrest record, DSM diagnosis and med regimen -- and above all their attorney's rep -- at the time I encounter them. Otherwise, see my many other posts on threads that provoke much less salubrious sentiments.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OneEnglishNorman View Post
    I wouldn't go further than a gentle swipe across the top of the head.

    Anything else just seems forced and calculated, like the parent is trying to live up to the image of a hard parent. Hitting a child with a belt is something Arabs/foreign types do.
    Well hitting with belts is quite common amongst Afrikaaners.

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    Mhh... tough question.

    I do not see however, why we should comply to either extreme.

    There are ways to "punish" and discipline a child that are much more effective than corporal punishment, such as confinement or deprivation of some pleasant activity, etc.

    I would rather use those and leave the spanking for very extreme cases - or not at all.

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    Growing up children with fear is counterproductive IMHO. If a child is sometimes slapped a bit or pulled from his hair as disciplining measure that's okay but that should be done calmly, as the problem is that usually that is accompanied by manic raging and yelling which scares a child. If they only act because of fear they'll cause big trouble with female teachers and such since even boys aren't scared of women and will act like little shitheads or atleast I did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ferryman View Post
    Growing up children with fear is counterproductive IMHO. If a child is sometimes slapped a bit or pulled from his hair as disciplining measure that's okay but that should be done calmly, as the problem is that usually that is accompanied by manic raging and yelling which scares a child. If they only act because of fear they'll cause big trouble with female teachers and such since even boys aren't scared of women and will act like little shitheads or atleast I did.
    My experience is the reverse. My female teachers were always the strictest and most feared/respected. With male teachers the idiots in the class got too buddy-buddy, and then when it came time for discipline they no longer took the teacher seriously! Even in the case of my mother, she was the disciplinarian and stricter parent. The only time females are not taken seriously is when they give no reason to be taken as such, as is the case with most young teachers. The feared/respected ones were usually more old school in their methodology. I only lose respect for a female when she is weak and too willing to pander to idiots who try intimidate her.

    I don't disagree though in that raising a child with fear is counterproductive.

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    The weakest & strongest teachers are female. Either total middle-aged bitches with faintly hairy faces or 20-nothings fresh out of training college. Male teachers tended to be more friendly/eccentric and cooler.

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    My worst experiences were also with female teachers.

    From male teachers, the kind of inappropriate behavior they were infamous for, was that of sexual harassment to the female students

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    Quote Originally Posted by OneEnglishNorman View Post
    The weakest & strongest teachers are female. Either total middle-aged bitches with faintly hairy faces or 20-nothings fresh out of training college. Male teachers tended to be more friendly/eccentric and cooler.
    The strict ones I referred to were mostly young - it's simply that they were old-fashioned in their method (most of them came out of boarding/private schools). TBH, I liked my female teachers better on the whole, partly because they could keep order quite well, and in some cases just because they were good/idiosyncratic. At uni I prefer my male profs though. Let's not engage in some double standard where male teachers are praised for being able to discipline, whereas female ones are regarded as "bitches".

    Blaxis, I can imagine - girls tend not to get along with their stricted female teachers all too well. :p

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    Quote Originally Posted by SineNomine View Post
    My experience is the reverse. My female teachers were always the strictest and most feared/respected. With male teachers the idiots in the class got too buddy-buddy, and then when it came time for discipline they no longer took the teacher seriously! Even in the case of my mother, she was the disciplinarian and stricter parent. The only time females are not taken seriously is when they give no reason to be taken as such, as is the case with most young teachers. The feared/respected ones were usually more old school in their methodology. I only lose respect for a female when she is weak and too willing to pander to idiots who try intimidate her.
    Interesting. The female teachers I encountered, though maybe respected, weren't feared by anyone. All they did was write a note to home or give a 'serious talk'. Sometimes they used some crooked tricks as well. That goes for most male teachers as well though, but a few of them relied on physical disciplining and intimidation which kept order in their class and again only led to the more restless cases to make trouble at other classes cause there was no 'punishment' there.

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