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    What Abstinence Is and How It Works

    There are two types of abstinence. Both prevent pregnancy. Both keep sperm out of the vagina.

    Periodic abstinence is a way that sexually active women prevent pregnancy. They become familiar with their fertility patterns. Then they abstain from vaginal intercourse on the days they think they could become pregnant.

    Continuous abstinence is not having sex play with a partner at all. This is the kind of abstinence discussed here.

    100 Percent Effective

    Continuous abstinence is 100 percent effective in preventing pregnancy. It also prevents sexually transmitted infection.

    Advantages

    Continuous abstinence

    • has no medical or hormonal side effects
    • is endorsed by many religious groups


    Everyone is sexual.

    Practicing abstinence does not mean a person is sexless. Almost all women and men are abstinent at some time in their lives. It can be a positive way of dealing with sexuality — as a well thought-out choice regarding one's body, mind, spirit, and sexual health. Some abstinent women and men enjoy "sexy" thoughts and feelings. Others can use their sexual energy for creative, physical, or intellectual activities.

    Special Advantages for Teens

    Sexual relationships present physical and emotional risks. Abstinence is a very good way to postpone taking those risks until you are able to handle them.

    Women who abstain until their 20s — and who have fewer partners in their lifetimes — may have certain health advantages over women who do not. They are less likely to

    • get sexually transmitted infections
    • become infertile
    • develop cancer of the cervix


    Reasons Why People Choose to Abstain

    Women and men abstain from sex play for many reasons — even after they've been sexually active. These reasons change throughout life.
    People choose abstinence to

    • wait until they're ready for a sexual relationship
    • wait to find the "right" partner
    • support personal, moral, or religious beliefs and values
    • deal with separation from a partner
    • get over a breakup
    • heal from the death of a partner
    • have fun with friends without sexual involvement
    • pursue school, career, or extracurricular activities
    • prevent pregnancy
    • prevent sexually transmitted infection
    • follow medical advice during an illness or infection

    Any woman or man can abstain from sex play. Many do so at various times in their lives. Some choose to do so all their lives.

    Possible Problems

    • People may find it difficult to abstain for long periods of time.
    • Women and men often end their abstinence without being prepared to protect themselves against pregnancy or infection.


    Staying Abstinent

    Before you need to make a sexual decision
    Women and men need to be clear about their reasons and values to stay abstinent. When you are in a sexual situation, it helps to be able to remember why you made the decision to be abstinent in the first place. How can you stay abstinent? Think about your answers to these questions:


    • Am I aware of situations that could make staying abstinent difficult for me? Can I avoid them?
    • I know alcohol and other drugs can affect my judgment and decision-making ability. How do I feel about not using them?
    • Are there people in my life I can talk to about my decision to abstain from sex play? Will they be supportive?

    When you need to make a sexual decision
    Abstinence can be difficult for some people, especially in a sexual situation.
    • Remind yourself why you chose to be abstinent.
    • Think about the consequences.
    • Don't reevaluate your decision to stay abstinent during sexual situations — stick with your decision until you can think about it with a clear head.


    Most people stop being abstinent at some point in their lives. When you decide not to be abstinent, ask yourself

    • Do I have information about and access to other methods of birth control?
    • Do I know how to protect myself from infection?

    Talking About Abstinence

    • Talking with your partner about your decision to abstain from sex play is important. Partners need to be honest with each other and make sexual decisions together. These are some of the best ways to keep a relationship happy. Even so, it may not be easy to do. You may feel awkward or embarrassed.
    • It's best to talk about your feelings before things get sexual. For many people it's hard to be clear about what they want when they are aroused. It is helpful to think — ahead of time — about how you can say "no" to sex play. What behavior will be clear? What words will be best? You can practice saying the words out loud. Then think about how someone could respond to you.
    • Take the time to consider fully what being abstinent will mean for you. It is important to know what you are thinking and feeling and what you need. Then you can tell your partner about it.
    • Be straightforward about the limits you want to set.

    Being in a Relationship and Being Abstinent
    Being sexual is not the only way two people can get to know each other. Sex play is also not the only way couples can be intimate, or close. People get closer as they build trust and intimacy by

    • talking
    • listening
    • sharing
    • being honest
    • respecting each other's thoughts and feelings
    • having fun together

    Abstinence can only work when both partners agree to it. So it is also helpful to keep talking to each other about why you've agreed to abstain from sex play. Your relationship may change. And your decision to be abstinent may change, too.

    Cost
    Most methods of birth control have some cost. Abstinence costs nothing.
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    Since my divorce, I have deleted my crotch, therefore complete abstinence is not a problem.

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    Another American puritan crap.

    Just a question : why you American people are so twisted about sexual issue ?

    Sex is natural. Preaching abstinence is semitic crap.
    " Je ne sais si Dieu a de la haine ou de l'amour pour les Anglais, mais ce que je sais, c'est qu'ils seront tous boutés hors de France, sauf ceux qui y périront..." Sainte Jeanne D'arc

    "I don't know whether God has hate or love towards the English, but what I do know is that all of them will be deportated out of France, excepted those who'll perish here." Saint Joan of Arc.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Marduk
    Another American puritan crap.

    Just a question : why you American people are so twisted about sexual issue ?

    Sex is natural. Preaching abstinence is semitic crap.

    Look at American birth rates over the last 20 years. I think more of us should choose abstinence.
    Also, why do you care?

    Oh, and please explain how abstinence is jewish behaviour...it would seem to me to be the opposite...the more abstinent jews, the better...

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    I went to school with a lot of girls who as soon as they turned 13 or 14 they were spreading their legs, the popular girls were usually the most slutty girls. I had no interest in being popular, no interest in boys or sex whatsoever until I was about 19 years old. I did not want to be used up and ruined while still in high school. A girl I knew already had 2 abortions by the time she was 18. I can count on one hand the number of "dates" I've been on in my life, and 2 of them don't count because I walked out on the guys before they started! (because they weren't white)

    I was abstinent all through my teenage years, and I don't think I missed out on anything by not dating or sleeping around. I had good clean fun instead.

    So I recommend to young people to wait for sex until whenever it is you're old enough to appreciate it as more than a body function, and especially when you find someone you really do love. For me that was 20 years old.

    As for abstinence while in a relationship, for other than times of medical emergencies or periods of physical separation, I think it's very stupid. It should be part of the fun, togetherness and exercise a couple has together.

    Abstinence in a relationship would only lead to less healthy or less happy activities- solitary masturbation (:sleep), sexual frustration, cheating on each other. I can't imagine a man initiating this voluntary abstinence, so this must be a thing women do to torture their boyfriends. Women are evil, heartless creatures.

    I can see a woman not wanting sex while she's on her period, otherwise if she's healthy but "just not in the mood" she should GET IN THE MOOD!

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    You speak like the islamic activists who thrive in lang area ...


    Oh, forgive me, my god, I apologise. I've been nasty, I should be punished.

    No more with laughing. Indegenous European people have never seen sex as something bad, they have always had a clean relation to. Nature is sain and pure. Those are semitic and nevrosed tribes like the Jew and the Arab who are preturbed with all likened to nature and love. Think about naturism for example who have originted in Germany in the early 1900s. And Think about Greeks and Romans.

    So don't push your ideas taken directly from the Bible which comes from the "desert".
    " Je ne sais si Dieu a de la haine ou de l'amour pour les Anglais, mais ce que je sais, c'est qu'ils seront tous boutés hors de France, sauf ceux qui y périront..." Sainte Jeanne D'arc

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    The behavior of Meds is different than UP's. I can see why they developed their religions the way they did. It would seem they need an oppressive system to keep them (Meds) under control. Northerns tend to operate best when left relatively free.

    One observation I've made about sexuality, I don't know if anyone else has noticed this, is that many or prehaps all those who are sexually promiscuous age quicker than those who have few partners. What I mean is that those who have fewer partners keep a more youthful appearance. I've not figured out why.

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    Never mentioned the bible or any other desert religion in my post. I thought it was a common belief to white people that losing one's virginity while still in elementary school is not something to be applauded. Likewise, I obviously don't care for Jewish child rape (a 3 year old girl is fine for them) and the child brides found in Islamic countries (an Albanian I knew had to quit school at 13 to get married to some distant relative of hers. Yuck.) And I'm sure the Mormons got a lot of pedophiles!

    I'm only suggesting young people under age 18 should not be having sex, and should occupy their time with something else. Teenagers don't really understand their own immature bodies, how can they understand someone else's? Repress your animal instincts until you're fully responsible to handle the consequences of them.

    I don't see what nudism has to do with sex, families and couples doing non-sexual things nude together?

    I think what 24/7 nudity would lead to is a desensitization, the naked body would cease to have a special meaning. The overwhelming majority of people around me I would NOT want to see nude. I like the idea of being able to be picky about who sees me naked. So the nude Germanic utopia society is not for me.

    Running around nude with their black slaves did the Romans and Greeks a lot of good I'm sure.
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    Quote Originally Posted by cosmocreator
    It would seem they need an oppressive system to keep them (Meds) under control.
    Exactly, I'm not talking about forcing women to wear chastity belts and burqas. I'm talking about young women who want guys to respect them need to act like they're more than a piece of ass, and stop giving their bodies away to any humanoid that gives them a little attention. I'm sure the French & Nordic "free love" mentality is helping raise several generations of whorish n1gger cock worshippers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cosmocreator
    One observation I've made about sexuality, I don't know if anyone else has noticed this, is that many or prehaps all those who are sexually promiscuous age quicker than those who have few partners. What I mean is that those who have fewer partners keep a more youthful appearance. I've not figured out why.

    One other thing I've noticed, is after a girl has sex, she changes physically. I don't mean in the vaginal area but in the face.

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