Female facial beauty as a prerequisite for male arousal

**Von Braun** · Wednesday, May 7th, 2003

I know that a woman must have a beautiful face in order to arouse me. It seems like so many men put a strong emphasis on breast size and so forth and pay less attention to facial beauty. I am a logical man, and what one looks at the most should be the most important. Breast size and height have little importance to me; in terms of her body, the main thing that I care about is if she is height/weight proportionate.

I love nicely shaped eyes (light brown or lighter), long straight to wavy hair (I lump this in with "facial features" since it is above the neck), a thin, sharp, and pointy nose, small and hidden cheekbones (and fine facial bones in general), a nice overall facial shape, and of course a light pigment as the default (untanned) skin tone.

It blows my mind that some white men can apparently care so little about facial beauty when it comes to even just casual sex. Even in that case, I'd think that he would need to like her face to engage in casual sex.

**Bigred** · Friday, May 9th, 2003

I like to look at the whole girl. I am not attracted to large breast. The face is a helper,but the real woman is what I want to fall in love with.

**Ariske** · Friday, May 9th, 2003

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Von Braun
I know that a woman must have a beautiful face in order to arouse me.

I was browsing the forum and came across this small thread, and I had to insert the opinion of a woman.
Firstly, I think that any woman who heard a statement of this sort would follow the end of the statement with a slap. I understand that no man wants to date a woman that isn't good-looking, if not drop-dead gorgeous. It's human nature to be attracted to beautiful things. However, more women would like to hear a compliment towards their whole being, ie. "You are incredibly beautiful, funny, smart, and interesting."
I know it's corny, but it works. And let's be honest. Those looks fade by the time you turn 50. They probably aren't the most important prerequisite for choosing a life-long partner.
Secondly, I'm not sure I believe in the 'perfect package'. For example, the pretty woman with the 180IQ. Would you rather take a small cut in looks for a woman with superior intellect?
I think looks play a very important part in whether or not you develope an interest in someone, but I don't think that I could ever be attracted to someone that didn't pique my intellectual needs.
I read an article in 'The Atlantic Monthly' regarding the rise in chauvanism in America, and I believe that this trend in saying things like, "Woman are blessed with a pretty face solely for my arousal." contributes in a large amount to the degredation of women.
Shows like 'The Man Show' and others in the same category really drive home the fact that these pretty women have no other job in life than to please men.
I know I sound like a gung-ho femenist, and that's hardly the case, but I think that women would like the focus to be on something other than looks. The whole conversation about 'You're pretty and my goodness, you have the nicest figure" is getting old. We want men that will come to us for advice and debate with us. We don't want the upper hand, but maybe just a bit more consideration.

**Allenson** · Friday, May 9th, 2003

Of course!

**Von Braun** · Friday, May 9th, 2003

Originally posted by Thorne

I was browsing the forum and came across this small thread, and I had to insert the opinion of a woman.
Firstly, I think that any woman who heard a statement of this sort would follow the end of the statement with a slap.

Do you think that women would rather hear comments about breasts and vaginas and so forth than hearing about nice faces? Every woman I have talked to about it thinks focusing on the face rather than body features is "sweet."

**Ominous Lord Spoonblade** · Tuesday, May 13th, 2003

Originally posted by Von Braun
Do you think that women would rather hear comments about breasts and vaginas and so forth than hearing about nice faces? Every woman I have talked to about it thinks focusing on the face rather than body features is "sweet."

It's best not to talk about a woman's physical appearance at all. Unless it is obviously a compliment, though not specific to her breasts, legs, buttocks, eyes, lips, hair, hands, feet, legs, arms, back, finger, toenail.....you'll catch shit either way LOL

**Vlad** · Saturday, May 17th, 2003

Yes, the face is always the first thing I notice. After that, weight/height. As for breats, I can honestly say I don't care about the size (as long as they are not so small that her chest looks like a man's). She wouldn't have to be strikingly beautiful, but she has to be at least average. So yes I agree that an atractive face is the most important thing for physical attraction.

**Von Braun** · Tuesday, May 20th, 2003

Originally posted by Vlad
Yes, the face is always the first thing I notice. After that, weight/height. As for breats, I can honestly say I don't care about the size (as long as they are not so small that her chest looks like a man's).

This is pretty much how I feel.

**Ewergrin** · Wednesday, May 28th, 2003

Yes absolutely, however I am speaking merely on a superficial basis here. What stimulates me the most is a strong mind, body and soul. Looks fade but the spirit endures.