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    Quote Originally Posted by Vittra View Post
    Most of them had passed 30 so yes, age is probably a factor, but I've also met a few younger who still find it hard to meet someone (suitable).
    Corrected that a bit. It's probably not a problem (from my perspective) to meet people of the opposite sex, whether they are suitable (long-term) partners, is of course another matter.

    I have it that the OP finds the representation on the forum disproportionate. That may have good reasons.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Žoreišar View Post
    I haven't even heard of anyone finding a long-term partner before the age of twenty, whom they settled and had kids with. Not on this side of the 1980s.
    I've been with my wife since 16 in the '90s and we have three kids.

    Quote Originally Posted by Theunissen View Post
    Corrected that a bit. It's probably not a problem (from my perspective) to meet people of the opposite sex, whether they are suitable (long-term) partners, is of course another matter.

    I have it that the OP finds the representation on the forum disproportionate. That may have good reasons.
    There was a struggle between girls I could have had who wanted me and girls I myself wanted, but that was mostly due to changing schools and lack of familiarity. The longer I remained in a school system, the better for me to socialise, because I was a preppie, nerd and jock all wrapped in one, so had a high profile even with a higher graduation class population than in primary school. Once I met my wife at another school and stopped worrying about it, all of a sudden, a lot of girls paid attention to me and I wasn't even trying to get with them. I even had to leave the school library after some random goth girl sat on my lap and didn't know her name or anything about her. After that, I pretty much quit hanging out with my classmates so much and more or less just associated with my wife and spent time working at my job. We idealised our future together.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rodskarl Dubhgall View Post
    I've been with my wife since 16 in the '90s and we have three kids.
    My mother met my dad when she was 16 too, and have been together since the mid 80s. Still, it seems to be an exceedingly rare occurrence these days.
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    Finding that special someone

    Well, dating will have its disappointments and let downs for sure. I was dating and engaged for three years in my late 20's. I hoped to be married after meeting with his family, but it did not work out since he had a terrible attitude about having children in general. We broke off the relationship due to these differences in life goals. He wanted to marry me but wanted no children. Yes, it's hard to meet up with people who have similar wants and interests. Again, I come from a large multicultural city "hole" making it more difficult for me to date white men in the past. After I sworn off men, well, I got married to a European guy in my early 30's. I had to "let go" some of that bitterness too from my previous failed engagement and warm up to a new chance. Relationships at all levels are hard. You have to pick the right partner with common goals. I dated my husband once because he did not push fast in the relationship and gave us some time to think and become friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Žoreišar View Post
    I haven't even heard of anyone finding a long-term partner before the age of twenty, whom they settled and had kids with. Not on this side of the 1980s.
    My sister met her husband when she was 18 and he was 29. When his friends started having kids, they did the same. Before my sister turned 25 she had three children and a bachelor degree. It's not very common but I know some couples who have met young and stayed together (usually the woman is younger than the man). If a woman wants a family and is smart she will try to find a good man and start a family as early as possible, since women are most fertile and fit to bear children between 20 and 30. Those who wait will often find it harder to meet someone since the most attractive men are suddenly taken while their own attractiveness is fading.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vittra View Post
    My sister met her husband when she was 18 and he was 29. When his friends started having kids, they did the same. Before my sister turned 25 she had three children and a bachelor degree. It's not very common but I know some couples who have met young and stayed together (usually the woman is younger than the man). If a woman wants a family and is smart she will try to find a good man and start a family as early as possible, since women are most fertile and fit to bear children between 20 and 30. Those who wait will often find it harder to meet someone since the most attractive men are suddenly taken while their own attractiveness is fading.
    I can understand where that quote from your sister was coming from then. Personally, I don't think it holds a lot of truth.

    I would say that people who marry young, or marry their first love, probably has a lower chance of divorce, though.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Žoreišar;1297298[B
    ]I'm not so sure there's a huge discrepancy between the share of single women and single men.[/B] But it depends on what country we're speaking of. China, Sweden and Germany, for instance, have a very skewed ratio between males and females, especially among people in fertile years (16-40). In Sweden, I believe there's around 125 men for 100 females in the age group 16-25. Of course that's going to affect the dating market. In addition to that, there's a larger percentage of men who establish second families after a divorce than women doing the same, but I'm not sure if the discrepancy is of a magnitude that makes a noticeable influence on the dating market.

    Where men and women do significantly differ, is their access to sexual encounters. I've seen statistics from the US showing there's around twice as many men as women between the ages 18 and 30 who've haven't had sex during the last year (around 30 percent of men, and around 15 percent of women).
    That's all right, because I am sure. And the reasons for that I outlined above. It is a mixture of numbers and a lack of interest on behalf of the women. Even in countries that don't have such an evident shortage of women as Sweden (for example the UK), men struggle. In a European context, the best situation for men is probably in Eastern Europe because the women have been less exposed to careerism/modernism and there are a lot fewer male migrants.


    Quote Originally Posted by Vittra View Post
    In Swedish nationalistic circles there are both men complaining about the lack of good women and women complaining about the lack of good men. I used to be a member of a Facebook group for patriotic women (it had over 1000 members before it was shut down) and in a poll asking about civil status about 40% answered they were single. Surprisingly few admitted that they were searching for a partner, though, most of the singles opted for "if the right ones shows up" or something similar. There has also been some match making attempts with poor results. Indeed, it seems a bit tricky getting people together even if they have the same goals in life (starting a family and raising their children in a traditional manner). I think both men and women (in general) are a little too picky in relation to what they have to offer, most think they deserve something better than they can get. I would also guess traditional women are harder to get since they tend to be even pickier (it could be paralysing thinking about that you need to find someone to spend the rest of your life with and also depend on for several year when you stay at home with children, not just someone to have a good time with) and since they are traditional, they often expect the man to lead and take initiative. I've heard some stories of men who have repeatedly advanced and showed interest in the same woman in spite of initial rejection and eventually the woman gives in, probably when she is convinced that he really cares for her. So it might not be a good strategy to go for quantity rather than choosing a woman with care and court her for a longer period of time before giving up a trying another one.

    If you are referring to "nationalist" (in reality superficially patriotic) women on social media, they are pretty much old- all of them. 30 is being nice. I would say they are 45 at the minimum, in general.

    Needless to say, these women are not suitable for relationships for young nationalist men because having children is central to our blood based worldview.


    You know that men peak later and are most attractive between 30 and 40, right? Those who aren't successful with women when they are young can work on themselves and get their carrier going, so when they are around 35 they could well be among the top tier men and have women who are in their early twenties. A woman who is not considered attractive at 20 can't do the same. Life isn't fair and we can't expect someone else to even out the injustices we feel inflicted by.
    So what you are saying is that now that I don't look as good as I did 10 years ago, things might get better because a woman might want me for my money? Sorry, I have no money. Careers mean cities and cities are a big nono for me, for reasons I explained in other threads. I am not going to sell my soul to the powers that be, be where I don't want to be, do what I don't want to do for the rest of my life in some shit job so that some woman might appreciate it.

    I wouldn't want a woman who wants me for my money anyway, so good riddance.


    Quote Originally Posted by Chlodovech View Post
    @Gegenschlag: Maybe relevant, maybe not - but seeing that you're Swiss I'm reminded of a noteworthy statement of Sigurd, whom is at home in the Alps himself and respected in many other valleys beside his own. He once suggested that our lack of female Swiss members is because they're intrinsically dutiful and have no time for such frivolous things like the internet - they're too busy being trad wife material, you see. A joke, surely, but what if it's Switzerland's best kept secret? Switzerland was also the last country in Europe to legalize voting for women.
    Or perhaps because Swiss Germans are a ridiculously small portion of the Germanic population of Europe? My experience with Swiss (German) girls is that they are not more traditional or more appreciative than other European women. They are also into this traveling nonsense and have no interest in having children. I am sure that some of them want to become mothers but those are taken very early on in life. Sadly, I have been trying to find a woman since I am 14, for the purpose of starting a family/serious relationship, and I never had that option no matter how early I started, and possibly never will.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gegenschlag View Post
    Sadly, I have been trying to find a woman since I am 14, for the purpose of starting a family/serious relationship, and I never had that option no matter how early I started, and possibly never will.

    Maybe you'll be like actor Tony Randall.

    Tony became a father for the first time when he was 77. His daughter Julia was born on April 11, 1997, and his son Jefferson followed suit a year later on June 15, 1998. Despite being that old before welcoming his kids, the actor strongly believed it was never too late to be a father and a doting one at that
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    In my view it's because the number of women on this board is reduced compared to the number of men. A second possibility could be that women are much more eager to be in relationships as opposed to men, some of who may be a little bit afraid of commitment. The typical traditional woman envisions marriage and children as a long-term goal while some men see marriage and children as limitations of their freedom. Since there are far more men vs. women on this board, it's a little bit normal that men have more variation.

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    It's not surprising IMO. Nationalist/traditionalist women are a rare breed, if any man counts himself lucky enough to get his hands on one, he may want to put a ring on her, and that more sooner than later.

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