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    Would You Marry a Swinger?

    I have been dating a wonderful woman for a few weeks but only just found out that she is a former swinger. What's more even though she claims that she no longer participates in that lifestyle she still organizes events and conventions for the swingers in her area. I personally find it to be disgusting but I have been with this woman long enough that I have some pretty deep feelings for her. What is your opinion and would you stay with someone who participates in this lifestyle?

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    I sort of understand your plight, my first wife was very unfaithful to the point we did not share the same bed or even live together for several years until the divorce. She became a full blown swinger going to clubs and group sex meetings( without me of course).

    However this women you are dating seems to have left this lifestyle and may very well be looking for a monogamous relationship, at least she is being open and honest with you about that part of her past. Other than that I fall short of offering advice.
    Life is like a fire hydrant- sometimes you help people put out their fires, but most of the time you just get peed on by every dog in the neighborhood.

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    Considering the fact I'm already married to a good woman, my response to this topic is purely hypothetical on my part, of course.

    No. I would not marry an active "swinger". I've associated with loose women, but I certainly would not be so foolish as to enter a steady relationship with one, let alone marry them.

    However, I might consider marrying a reformed "swinger" who has finally reached a level of maturity regarding such matters, and understands that what really counts isn't promiscuous sex, but a complete meaningful relationship based on traditional values.

    Yes. I do believe people can change if they really want to.
    Aside from an ever increasing number of mortals who have willfully chosen to worship Satan and his minions, our battle has always been against the powers and principalities operating surreptitiously throughout this twisted world.

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    Only you can shed light on her character, only you can start to form a judgement about the likelihood of her turning into a cheater. But I do think it would be good if you asked yourself: "Would I have dated this woman if I had known she was a swinger before I fell in love with her?" If the answer is 'no', it's best not to drink from this cup. Follow your brain and not your heart. And if you already know there's gonna be a trust deficit and that you may never have peace of mind, then you should definitely not pursue her.
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    Swinging and cheating aren't the same thing. No, I would not marry a swinger, but I wouldn't marry anyone. Swinging is definitely fun though.

    I don't see the problem. If you're uncomfortable with it, break things off. You don't have a lot invested in a 3 week old relationship, imo.

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    I had already known this woman for a long while before things got serious. There is a lot more invested here than just a few weeks of dating. We complement each other quite well. She also has impressive German ancestry and is sympathetic to many of the ideals we are fighting for. Finding an ideal partner in lefty Austin has been extremely difficult. I plan on being here for a few more years and do not want to spend them alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wulfram View Post
    I had already known this woman for a long while before things got serious. There is a lot more invested here than just a few weeks of dating. We complement each other quite well. She also has impressive German ancestry and is sympathetic to many of the ideals we are fighting for. Finding an ideal partner in lefty Austin has been extremely difficult. I plan on being here for a few more years and do not want to spend them alone.
    While it's wise to step back a few paces to critically consider these matters rather than blindly following your heart into questionable relationships that could lead to a world of hurt, this is not always as easy as it's often made out to be by those who are offering such advice, especially if they haven't been where you're at right now.

    It has been my sad experience to suffer the heartbreak that results from not heeding my gut instincts about relationships that ultimately failed just as I somehow suspected they would.

    So, what exactly do your gut instincts tell you about your current relationship? (Not necessary to answer here. But I strongly suggest you do pay serious attention to them.)
    Aside from an ever increasing number of mortals who have willfully chosen to worship Satan and his minions, our battle has always been against the powers and principalities operating surreptitiously throughout this twisted world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kauriraris View Post
    Swinging and cheating aren't the same thing.
    Sorry, what this ''swinger'' is?

    A person who practices sex with several partners but is not relationship with anybody (so she is not ''cheating'' anybody, or?)

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