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    Dating Is Dead And Millennials Killed It

    From "Have her home by eleven!" to "Netflix and Chill?"

    Travel back in time to the 1900s, and you would see courtship at its finest. Men gaining a father's approval before taking a woman on an actual date, socials where people could mingle respectively and actual respect for marriage and the responsibility it holds. Today, if you mention meeting parents, a large majority of boys go running for the hills (speaking from personal experience). Most couples today don't even go on real dates; "Netflix and chill" has definitely seen to that. There are several problems with what is considered to be "romance" in this generation, and I'm worried that it's only going to get worse over the next few years.

    Ahh, Snapchat. Twitter. Instagram. Facebook, even. Social media has given us a way to be, well, social. If you're like me and you've heard the story of how your parents met just a few too many times, then you would know for a fact that social media probably was not involved. To think that men used to actually walk up to women and ask them on dates sounds pretty absurd, right? Today, social media apps and online dating sites are used so much for this that we have almost forgotten how to communicate in real life. Back in the day of pagers and "Have her home by eleven!" romance was more personal and intricate. Now here we are, sliding in the DMs, getting Snapchat usernames at the bar and swiping right on Tinder.

    Looking at the "L" that dating has taken over the past few years, I can easily say that I am scared for the following generations. It's only going to get worse. What about marriages? Divorce rates have gone up, and the amount of happy couples has severely declined. So many people today are either scared of the commitment or rush into something that they aren't going to give 100% to. Relationships and marriages are huge commitments, and I'm concerned about my generation's capability of handling it.
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    Dating is dead, but millennials didn't kill it. Boomers and Gen X carry way more responsibility.

    Can you imagine, as a guy living today, courting a modern woman the way men did back in the Fifties? It wouldn't work, not simply because of looser morals or "a lack of time" or because it's all so elaborate and stiff, but what kind of man can believe in such a date, in what he's doing? The guys who still sort of try this approach are overbearing fedora wearing "nice guys", and "nice guys" are basically incels who haven't abandoned all hope yet - but their efforts bear no fruits. It's just that we can't go back to that time in which we men believed women to be fairly innocent creatures - feminism happened and revealed women's shadow side - and hence the spell is broken, the illusion is gone, just like the mystery - also gone. Once and for all.

    Feminism humanized women in the eyes of men, and in the process we stopped regarding them like Medieval dames. Women became human, all too human.

    How can traditional dating work today then? You could show up at Nancy's door in your sunday clothes, with flowers & chocolate, and chat with her parents as if you're talking to a priest, but then you recall Nancy is a career woman, an unrepentant feminist of some flavor - who dresses down - swears, has a high body count and is unable to hold a conversation beyond the confines of pop culture and who will probably break up with you as soon as next week or divorce you as late as next year. You already know what she looks like nude because of pictures on social media. She never cooked anything beyond an egg and she will fail as a mother.

    There's nothing more unbelievable than the concept of Nancy as a lady, she lacks all the necessary feminine qualities. You would naturally turn around and run for the hills, give the flowers to your mother and eat the chocolate yourself. Good for you! You're smart.
    "The moral code of our society is so demanding that no one can think, feel and act in a completely moral way. For example, we are not supposed to hate anyone, yet almost everyone hates somebody at some time or other, whether he admits it to himself or not. Some people are so highly socialized that the attempt to think, feel and act morally imposes a severe burden on them. In order to avoid feelings of guilt, they continually have to deceive themselves about their own motives and find moral explanations for feelings and actions that in reality have a non-moral origin. We use the term “oversocialized” to describe such people." — Ted Kaczynski

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    'Dating Is Dead And Millennials Killed It'

    Reminds me a bit of an old quote: 'Chivalry is dead and women killed it.'

    Feminism bears a great deal of responsibility for women's discontentment with modern dating...as ironic as the statement might seem.

    Of course, men allowing the situation to become as it has...also lends responsibility back to our end: Men mold women. Women becoming of the condition they are, is a reflection of what men have allowed matters to become - be it by action or inaction.

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    Parents killed it , by wrong behaviour .

    Media killed it , by promoting wrong behaviour .

    Future Outlook killed it , by destroying hope and goals ( dreams ) by Change .

    Governments killed it , by artificially keeping things alive .
    Mk 10:18 What do you call me a good master, no-one is good .

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    Boomers dated. We had proms. Boys came to the house with corsages and wristlets. My family was spread across the US and this was true for all of us. We dated (usually one person at a time, although very casual dates could involve different people in a month). We went steady, girls got promise rings and class rings.

    Gen X-ers, somewhat notoriously, did not date as much and proms and traditional dating began to disappear. Boomers were certainly more likely to have sex before marriage than their parents (boomers born 1945-1965, which is the usual definition). Gen X-ers also had sex before marriage, but became decidedly less likely to marry (thereby helping improve "divorce stats," which are better now than in the past - because many never marry.

    Now, 50% of children are born to unmarried parents (this was not true of Boomers, even if some of us "had to" get married). Heck, my first husband and I couldn't even rent a place of our own without proof of marriage. That stat (parents not married) has risen steeply within the current reproducing population (born approximately 1985-2002) as they have reached the age of maturity.

    Blaming women doesn't help, by the way. But blaming women is as old as sin. One reason women do not want to date, marry or bear children (now we've got 20-25% of high school senior girls saying they never want children - whereas for boomer senior girls, it was 5-7%) is that men are openly hostile in some many ways, as they are on this thread. Instead of joint problem solving, both sides blame the other. Fortunately, women can at least have some independence and provide for themselves, these days. My protein requirements can be achieved by me, by myself, if I choose.

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