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  • Yes I would, and I would be neutral/not care about it.

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  • Yes I would, but reluctantly. (If he promises to change, or there is no better option)

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    Women, Would You Date (or Marry) a Man Who Has Had Many Sexual Partners?

    The question is for women only.

    Would you date a man who is known for being a bit of a "casanova", or has had a number of sexual partners that is higher than average? Would it bother you, or would you be neutral about it, or even consider it a plus?

    Also do you feel judgmental about men who "sleep around" a lot? If so for what reason?

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    I not only dated such men. I married one.

    This is not to say I would approve of my man continuing to play around... And he does like to play.
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    It depends on how many previous partners he had and what the circumstances were. If he was in relationships with these women, but it just didn't work out, I wouldn't mind it. But if he was a casual "conqueror" and had a lot of casual sex, I'd be reluctant to be honest. He'd have to show he changed and wouldn't pursue other women.

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    The score is 5-0. I'm not at all surprised.

    And yet a typical complaint I hear from feminists or women (not entirely sure) all the time is that guys can fool around without any repercussions, but if a woman does it she's a slut.

    I had this discussion with Juthunge and Velvet in the shoutbox too, they were saying guys monkey branching is just as bad as when women do it. Looking at it from a socially conservative or religious viewpoint that may be true, I'm very much against it as well - but it isn't exactly the same thing: single guys increase their attractiveness if they sleep around, it's a sign they're hot shit, because only the most alluring of men can do that. A woman's attractiveness decreases when she has a lot of sexual partners - and she doesn't even have to be all that attractive or rich or anything to have a past with many sexual partners. It says little about her sexual prowess too. That's how it is regardless of our politics, even for progressives.

    We could do the same poll for guys ("Men, would you date (or marry) a woman who has had many sexual partners?) and the score would probably be reversed: 0-5. Men don't like the idea of starting anything serious with a woman of ill repute, even if she promises to change her ways.
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    I'm married so I'll bite hypothetically. The type of guy I wouldnt date or marry would be a virgin. If the guy has gotten around with the ladies, it's a plus. It means he's highly valued on the market.

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    I wouldn't consider a man who sleeps around a good catch, for various reasons. I would be concerned about his loyalty and faitfulness, his ability to control himself, not to mention catching some STD. If it was in the context of many relationships, I might give him a chance, but it would still be a red flag in my mind. Someone might be unlucky with all of their partners, but if this number exceeds what is considered normal, I would wonder why. My partner hasn't had many other relationships before me, and did not sleep with all of his girlfriends, what I don't consider to be a minus. In today's sex-crazed world, I consider it the opposite.
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    Probably not. A man who has a reputation to sleep around does not come across as attractive to me either, to be honest. I'm closer to Christian morals than I am to this secular sexual liberalism from nowadays. Of course I wouldn't expect a virgin either, but I'd rather be with someone who considered sex as an act of love and not as some casual type of behavior.

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    I'm not hyper judgmental about somebody's history, however based on my personal experience, I wouldn't recommend it for marriage, especially if you want children at a later stage. It's one thing if a guy is a bit of a charmer and attracts women in his entourage, successful men tend to do so; however I've found that men who are too indiscriminte about sex usually think with their nether regions, something that isn't a great trait if you're looking for a faithful partner. If they like to play around, there is not a lot of room for the possibility that they will change drastically. Another thing is, those who are indiscriminate about sex are more likely to have slept with non-white/non-Germanic women, whose incidence of STDs is pretty high.

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    Probably not, I would be too jealous and insecure that his habits would return... I'm a bit conservative when it comes to those things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sól View Post
    The question is for women only.

    Would you date a man who is known for being a bit of a "casanova", or has had a number of sexual partners that is higher than average? Would it bother you, or would you be neutral about it, or even consider it a plus?
    I selected other/specify. I wouldn't be interested in a Casanova, especially if the man in question bragged or boasted openly of his conquests in my presence. If, on the other hand, the individual had experienced some sort of a moral awakening and that type of behavior was relegated to the past, I wouldn't be perturbed.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sól View Post
    Also do you feel judgmental about men who "sleep around" a lot? If so for what reason?
    Being judgmental about the objective morality of an action isn't problematic for me, but what I couldn't judge is someone's interior disposition.
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