You all know that girl. You know that type. She twirls her hair when she talks to you. She half smiles while she's looking your way. She practically gives you a "come hither" sign with her finger for you to walk over to her.
Ladies and gentlemen, allow me to introduce the case of the chronic flirt. That's right, she's merciless, ruthless and out to get your heart. Funny thing is, all guys fall for her and her deceiving trap.

So why do all of you fall prey to these flirting predators? And why is it that when a man acts the same way with women — flirting as if it were a full-time career — we brand him a creep that just wants action?

Today we'll examine these strange workings, and see if we can ever understand the ways of the jungle of love.

Let me explain the scenario further. This is what happens: a woman meets a man, charms him with friendly eyes and seduces him with conversation. He hangs around her, calls her, and they go out every so often; there would be no reason for him not to make an effort with her, since he has been given every indication that his woman friend is indeed interested in him.
Days go by. Weeks. The happy couple has gone out more than six times, only there hasn't been any sexual contact just yet. Then, the man, thinking that all he needs to secure this relationship and make it something more serious is to verbally announce that the two are, in fact, an item.

They are out for dinner. He tells her how he feels before the Crme Brulée arrives. And how does she respond to his heartfelt confession? Shock. She's actually shocked that he suspected there was something going on between them. But wait, that's not even the best part of this twisted anecdote when he finally stops calling her, and starts showing interest in other women, guess who starts doing the calling?

Yes, you guessed it. Our lady friend starts calling him practically every night after that, lest he actually loses interest in her. We've all heard of playing hard to get, but this is ridiculous!

So why do women do this?

1. Lack of self confidence
One reason is insecurity. It usually seems to boil down to a lack of self-confidence, the same reason for which women fall for jerks. For women (and I'm sure men, when the case is backwards), having men around chasing and pursuing them is enjoyable, to say the least, and is considered "backup."

These are men that women enjoy talking to, having a good time with, but are either not attracted to, or feel that they were too easy to get. It becomes easy for the woman because she knows he is interested, she knows he would do almost anything for her, and she knows (or rather thinks) that he will be around when and if she is ever ready for him.

Having this sense of backup adds to the comfort level of a woman, since she knows that when the going gets tough and she's in a dry spell, she can always call on her male friend for a hand, or two

It's no surprise that having male admirers around can raise a woman's confidence. And what better way to boost her confidence level, when she feels that she is lonely and has no special guy around, than the reminder that there are guys nearby that are interested in her?

2. Added appeal
Having male admirers is also an accessory. There's something appealing about a man or woman who has a group of "fans." When it becomes known that someone has a slew of admirers, it adds to the appeal of the person in question.

Women use this as a way to attract other men, the other men they really want, and keep their groupies as ammunition, for when necessary.

In the same train of thought as playing hard to get, men seem more attractive when they are unavailable to women. So, flirting with men can give women a sense of security, empowerment and aggressiveness, and they will do so until that man falls for them.

Even though she may not be attracted to him and would not date him under any circumstances, he becomes more attractive once he no longer makes the woman the center of his world.

3. Challenge
In a twisted way, flirting and having men fall for women is almost a game; a challenge that women like to play with themselves. They'll flirt to see if "they've still got it," regardless of whether or not they are interested in the guy in question.

Once the men they flirt with do fall for them and their little ploy, these women practically give themselves another point on the scoreboard hanging in their walk-in closet. After that, they chuck him with their Chinese take-out.

Not all women are like this of course; I'm only referring to those who flirt for no one's benefit but their own.

Ways you can avoid succumbing to this heinous scheme:

Don't let her think she can take advantage of you.
Don't reveal too much to her at once; try to remain intriguing and keep the mystique level high.
Don't be too taken by her flirtatious behavior; take it for what it is: light flirting. Don't start planning your wedding.
Don't make her your highest priority off the bat.
Before you reveal your feelings to her, consider the possibility that she may just be flirting with you.
Have your own life.
Don't read too much into things.

These are tips for you to avoid falling into this flirting game of hers. Don't be paranoid, but stay on your toes when it comes to courting her. Remember, it's all fun and games until someone gets hurt.
With the right amount of intrigue and the right moves, you'll have your own set of groupies that would make Leonardo DiCaprio jealous. Turn her game around by knowing how to make her love you, and she'll be eating out of the palm of your hand.
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