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    The Culture of the Family Meal: Treasured Tradition Or Bygone Ideal?

    Here a topic that strikes me in the modern world: back in the day, at least when I was a child, it was common for families to eat together at least once a day, usually at dinner because everyone was home, weekends at lunch also. This tradition was sacred with very few exceptions (if someone was ill, they could eat in their room for example, and so on). During the time of eating, there were very few distractions. The family ate in the dining room or on the terrace, the TVs were off, peoples sat straight in their chairs and enjoyed time together.

    But nowadays this is becoming more and more seldom. One reason is because nowadays, peoples are moving earlier and more often, multiple generational homes are less common compared to the city one or two person apartment. However, peoples who live together with their families have also diminished this tradition, nowadays a family dinner is something that happens maybe once a week, or only on special occasions (engagements, marriages, family reunions etc).

    Another reason is because less and less peoples cook and have regular meals a day. Some know how to cook but don't feel like cooking for themselves or for two peoples, others don't even know how to cook and eat whatever is laying around. The popularity of fast food and take out has removed cooking from the scenery. Add a few distractions - computers, cell phones, tablets, TV, with many peoples eating at their desk or on the couch, in front of these devices because it's much more comfortable. So, the table culture is pretty much absent with the newer generations. Some see it as anachronistic, tedious and time-consuming, because it involves planning, inviting members and making sure they show up, deciding what to cook (nowadays we've many more vegetarians and other "special eaters"), shopping for the ingredients and utensils, trying a recipe, etc. Work schedules, now everyone is busy and doesn't have time, social activities outside or in clubs also affect it.

    Of course another reason, a very decisive one is the changing of the family definition and structure. The traditional family is no longer considered the only acceptable type of family. We've homosexual marriage, polygamy, single parenting,

    How is the situation on your side, especially for those who have families or live together with a partner or room mate? Do you have a family dinner time? Do you have any dinner table rules or etiquette, such as no smartphones or TV, no discussion of certain topics? Do you eat cooked meals at these dinners and are you involved in the preparation of the meals, setting and clearing the table, washing dishes thereafter?

    In my family, there was always a family dinner time. My parents preserved this tradition even after I left home, they still eat together, and we always eat together when I visit them. When we are at the table, we don't play on smartphones or watch TV. None of us starts eating beore the others are ready and none of us leaves the table before the others are also finished. If we must get up for whatever reason, we ask to be excused.

    In my view, it's more than just food, it's an important time with the family because peoples are all together, bond and socialise. You learn what is new in everyone's lives, eat a healthy cooked meal, have a meaningful discussion and learn other people's views and ideas. You get to know them better, and they you. Some see family meals as the ultimate symbol of perfect family unity and stability. This is a common image that comes to mind when modern peoples think family meals:



    But I don't think you need to be a perfect family or the splitting image of a traditional family or to need a special occasion to create this time together. Even if it's just you and your partner, just you and your child or parent, it's still important to create some family time.

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    My family's pretty traditional when it comes to "family meals", we are more relaxed with lunch and breakfast these days but with evening meals especially round weekends we still have the rules and manners, we try to give my mum a break but a large part of the traditional family meal that brings everyone together is the traditional role of the mother and housewife and the joy and warmth her cooking brings to her family. I could name a few contenders for a favourite meal, a lot of the time it would just be steak, but ultimately you just can't beat a hearty roast dinner. People who say English people can't cook either don't know what they are talking about or are jealous. It's good old-fashioned, non-pretentious country food and family food, which is always the best kind of food.

    I think cuisine does have a lot to do with how traditional and family-oriented a meal is actually. Pasta doesn't have quite the same effect (though no doubt it does for many Italians).

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    Sadly I do think it is becoming a bygone idea.

    I blame television, smartphones, the internet and some other modern technologies. Also the 800 lbs. gorilla in the room in is cultural marxism and destruction of the family unit.
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    Good idea for a thread, Siebenbürgerin. This is indeed becoming an outdated phenomenon in Western society and technology does have something to do with it. I think technology can be great, for the most part it stems from Germanic achievement and innovation. Unfortunately though, especially nowadays, it is heavily abused to our detriment.

    We made a point to have family meals and during those meals, usage of smartphones, tablets or television is frowned upon. We actually made a point not to even answer the phone during meal time - if it is important, they will leave a message or try again later. We wanted to set an example to our children from the very beginning, so there are a few simple yet normal rules that we follow during meal times. This is not simply because we are strict, but most of these rules make sense. Sitting upright and not slouching, assuming the correct position helps with digestion, for instance. Eating at a normal pace and not speaking or laughing with one's mouth full is not just a matter of courtesy and etiquette, but also prevents choking or projecting the food on the table, or worst, on some else at the table.

    And of course family meals together strengthen the bonds between family members and give us the opportunity to discuss things and get to know each other better.

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    We also make a point to eat at least one meal together (usually dinner), even if we are tired and just ordering a pizza. Usually, we eat cooked meals though and yes, the food is part of the experience, however we can occasionally also enjoy take out while watching a movie. Most of the time it's an opportunity to discuss our day and spend some quality time together.

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