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    Quote Originally Posted by Siebenbürgerin View Post
    Unfortunately I've had the experience that most men my age don't want to commit, the idea of marriage and family seems too early or even outdated to them. But, it's not only the men. Women my age feel the same, sometimes even worse. They want to "have fun" first and focus on other things before they are "ready". And they're already in their late twenties or early thirties. I wonder when they feel they're going to be ready at all? When they turn 40 or 50?
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    That sounds like extended puberty... Be a youth until you can go into pension or something.

    I think a lot of men want a family with children, but this comes with obligations. For some reason large families are viewed as backward and a sign of poverty, which actually it isn't.

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    The thing is, if you start marriage or family early, you're judged and looked at as a freak. I got pregnant with 18 and married my husband shortly after and we started a family. Another thing is my husband is 14 years older than me, so I either got mocked as a child bride or my husband as a pedophile. I was heavily judged by my life choices and called trash and low class. But my husband stood by me and now we have a wonderful family with two more children. The thing with men is, many mature later. My husband did the responsible thing and although I was scared the first time, he provided with support. He showed commitment and responsibility. I doubt an 18 year old would have done the same.

    This was the traditional way, woman married young and had children young, the man was a bit older and more accomplished, with enough maturity, responsibility and means to support a family. But today it's seen as freakish and weird, women want to finish their studies or start careers first which is a feminist thing. The fact is, you can still study while in the process of starting a family.

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    Life is a journey.

    I think some men spend too much time learning a lifestyle before being involved or committed in a deep long-term relationship or marriage. Some of their behaviors do not support a marriage or family well so they have to unlearn some unhealthy "self-centered" habits over the years. There is a good saying, "Don't marry too young or don't marry too late." I've been married with 3 plus children over a a decade and still find my husband struggling more with commitments and especially with maturity. When you get married or have family, your old ways vanish and new responsibilities occupy the once plentiful time. Yes, I miss some of my freedoms, especially time, but would never give up being a mother for my past single lifestyle. Both men and women have to take normal risks and deal with aging and balancing roles to enjoy family life. It comes down to having positive attitudes and willingness to change when it arises. Men today fear change and understanding the benefits in the future to do so. To mention I also had to painfully leave two longterm relationships in the past to have my children today as the men desired to be childless and wanted to "play around in life" like boys. And they're still not married!

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    I believe that young men these days are afraid of commitment. And they either don't want, or claim they are not ready for that kind of responsibilty. Or marriage either, for that matter. Many choose to continue playing around well into their thirties.

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    Here's a good video that explains the decline of marriage nowadays, what directly also leads to the decline of society.



    Reasons:

    - feminism and the sexual liberation revolution, decline of traditional gender roles
    - materialism
    - nihilism
    - pre-marital becoming the norm
    - the increased incidence of promiscuity, polyamory, open relationships
    - the rise of the "player" culture which treats monogamy with disdain
    - the ubiquitous availability of pornography
    - the celebration of gay marriage and the LGTBQ culture
    - (heterosexual) marriage no longer signifies status, it is something frowned upon that people do when they have given youth and abandoned fun and adventure, or some form of capitulation to the other gender/partner; traditional marriage is viewed as a prison
    - laws are frequently designed to disadvantage men, stay at home mothers or cohabitating/married couples in general; in some countries, couples who have children sometimes don't marry out of economic reasons, because the welfare state is designed to support single mothers; in addition, some countries also practice a ban on homeschooling

    Despite these trends, people are more depressed than ever and dissatisfied with their lives, jobs and social statuses - e.g. women have been getting more and more depressed since the 70s. Also studies show that married couples are happier and live longer than singles.

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    I'm going back on something my Grandfather taught me and I think its about time we work hard to expose it. He stated to me when I was in my early teens that leftist make money from creating division, hence these feminist make money via fame by promoting a war between sexes when none should exist.

    Many young men actually want marriage with children, the trouble is they don't know they want it. The same goes for young women they want marriage and children and do not know it. As the above video stated this current train wreck we call "society" tells them marriage and children are bad, but their natural instincts tell them to get married and have children.

    Is it just me or is advertising geared to show racial others in a happy marriage, or worse racially mixed couples in a happy marriage, while it shows very few happy white couples in traditional marriages.
    Life is like a fire hydrant- sometimes you help people put out their fires, but most of the time you just get peed on by every dog in the neighborhood.

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    It goes both ways though. It's not only women who are no longer women, men are also no longer men. The idea of marrying early and having children sounds good in theory, but as a woman you depend on a man for that. Especially if you want a traditional family, where you stay home for the pregnancy and newborn/formative years. If the man doesn't assume responsibility and runs out on you when you're pregnant, you have little choice. Especially with younger men, who just want to party and get laid. They don't want marriage, even less so children. They see it as unmasculine, some sort of incarceration method. So there you go, this is the result.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nachtengel View Post
    It goes both ways though. It's not only women who are no longer women, men are also no longer men. The idea of marrying early and having children sounds good in theory, but as a woman you depend on a man for that. Especially if you want a traditional family, where you stay home for the pregnancy and newborn/formative years. If the man doesn't assume responsibility and runs out on you when you're pregnant, you have little choice. Especially with younger men, who just want to party and get laid. They don't want marriage, even less so children. They see it as unmasculine, some sort of incarceration method. So there you go, this is the result.
    I think both men and women are conditioned to be this way. Women are expected to be independent feminists and men are expected to be losers who fritter away their lives... and what happens when a white male is actually a hard worker and is worthy of getting a decent job so he CAN take care of a family?:

    Most people think as they are trained to think, and most people make a majority.

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    I think women cannot mess around in life as long as men since we have more fertility limitations. Unfortunately, if the male avoids or procrastinates marriage in our age group, it can cost some years in having larger families or children. People get set in their ways and tend to forget how to be around children too. Many young men are afraid of growing up and avoid maturity, which involves some commitments and sacrifices along the way. It is not all economics as many couples started family economically "poor" in the old days.

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    The juice isn't worth the squeeze anymore. Men are simply looking at the costs/benefits of marriage and decide to opt out. And who can blame them? It's a rational decision, something done out of selfpreservation. Going MGTOW is the safest choice. Men can't get what they want the most out of a marriage: trust & respect. Instead they'll get mind games, shit testing, shaming tactics, endless moralising and gaslighting amongst other displays of abusive behaviour and toxic femininity.

    At any given moment in time a woman can decide the marriage is over and run off with half of a man's resources and the children - and most will. Women are married to the state, not to you, men. Daddy state will help her through the breakup with a financial safety net, while you can start paying child support. Think about what all that does to the mental health of a man. No wonder so many men are in crisis, commit suicide or become an emasculated shadow of who they once were. And perhaps it's why a new generation of men are changing their mating strategy, become simps and shoot cuckface selfies:

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    A man isn't even in charge of his own home any longer - unless his woman let's him, but she can withdraw consent at any given point. Systemic feminism makes traditional marriage all but impossible. Under these circumstances you can only play at being in a traditional marriage; that cute little girl you love so dearly and have known for many years may turn into a cute little monster at a moment's notice - after your love goggles deceived you for years. And guys, contrary to myth, a woman's love for you is highly conditional - and there are absolutely no roadblocks anymore, not religion, not tough divorce laws, ... that will stop her from dumping you like one of her boxes of old shoes at the local goodwill shop.

    That being said, here are some decent tips for traditional wives:

    "And how can man die better than facing fearful odds, for the ashes of his fathers, and the temples of his Gods?" - Thomas Babington Macaulay

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