View Poll Results: Can a man and a woman have a purely platonic relatioship?

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Thread: Can Men and Women Be Friends? The Science Behind Cross-Sex Friendship

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    Yes they can be friends. It helps when there is some factor precluding sexual involvement---something one or both recognize which will make it never, never happen. This could be age differences such as between me and Catterick. I consider her a friend and we share an interest in Anthro.

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    I've had and still have a number of male friends over the years. We could joke around but there's never been anything romantic between us - just friends.

    Your answer to this question will depend on your relationship status. If you are looking for love, or especially, already in a relationship, it will be harder to keep things just to friendship, atleast in the eyes of your partner. There's another thread on here about jealousy in relationships, and as I said there, extreme jealousy can sadly thwart entirely non-romantic cross-sex relationships. On the other hand as I am not currently in either of these categories I have little difficulty in this.

    As I said, it depends on the individual and their circumstances. But generally I would say Yes, it's possible.

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    Can Men and Women Be Friends?
    Yes. Why not?

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    My experience that in my life a male-female frendship always evolve to a higher level. It is simply the human nature. We don't repress our natural emotions and feeling. "Naturam expellas furca, tamen usque recurret." /Horatius/ So, if you chase out the Nature with a fork, it will be back always.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wulfaz View Post
    My experience that in my life a male-female frendship always evolve to a higher level. It is simply the human nature. We don't repress our natural emotions and feeling. "Naturam expellas furca, tamen usque recurret." /Horatius/ So, if you chase out the Nature with a fork, it will be back always.
    I understand that, however life also offers us experiences that tell us basic natural instinct can be wrong. When you both know that a sexual/romantic relationship would end in disaster, your instinct is to also not act on your lustful momentary ideas.

    Hopefully it is our ability to not act on some of the natural instincts and knowing the consequences of our actions is what separates us from beast. Take for example the negro, he is more prone to follow his animal instincts and look at the current state of Africa compared to us.
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    I voted yes, but there can of course be jealousy from the other's partner.

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    It depends on how someone defines the meaning of being friends. To me a friend "loveth at all times" as described in the Old Testament between David and Jonathan, a male to male friendship. One must be careful not to interchange friend and comrade or being a buddy, for they are different things and have different meanings. Which brings me to the most important point I want to make. If someone is married or in a relationship it is the other person in that union which should not only be the friend, but a soul mate as well. And if a man or a woman already in a relationship needs a "friend" he or she walks on dangerous ground and he or she is moving into an area which could most likely lead to the end of their present marriage/relationship. I think people who think that men and women can be friends if they are already bonded to someone else are deceiving themselves. A must for any lasting and functional marriage or relationship is being that person to each other who means everything, knowing each others soul desires in all matters of life, no matter of any disagreements here and there which happen in every relationship. I do not believe that a woman and a man should ever even attempt to be friends if they are already bonded to someone else.

    It is a total different situation if a man and woman become friends and neither one of them are bonded to someone else. As a matter of fact, the best marriages begin with a deep friendship which ultimately leads to the life long commitment of marriage. Friendship is part of the never ending "loving process" and is like many other things necessary for a functional and happy marriage between one man and one woman.

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    I voted "yes" too. I have a few male non-sexual friends I trust and the other way around.

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    Can Men and Women Be "Just" Friends?

    Alright, Skadi folks, let's dissect this one.

    Question for the men, is it possible for you to have a purely platonic relationship with a female who is halfway attractive? Does it only work if she's fat, a lesbian or not "your type"?

    And the women, how do you feel about the concept "friendzone"? Is it considered abusive by men?

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    I think it's actually easier if you have several of them, so you don't fall in love with one just because she's the only girl you're around all the time.

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