View Poll Results: Can a man and a woman have a purely platonic relatioship?

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  • Yes, but only as long as they ignore their primal instinct.

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  • No, it's against our nature.

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Thread: Can Men and Women Be Friends? The Science Behind Cross-Sex Friendship

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    Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Me feeling betrayed isn't what ended the relationship.

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    Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Quote Originally Posted by Bran
    I read somewhere a while ago that females have two social ladders, whereas males have only one. Females have either "friends" and "potential romances" for the opposite sex. Males have only one list. For a man, its easy to let a friendship with a woman bloom to a fullscale relationship, but for a woman it is not. According to the article I've read, it is very hard for a man to jump lists when he's on the "friends" list and vice versa.
    The " friends" list..
    I`d rather be in Hell...

    and the forerunner...
    " It`s not you, it`s me..."
    Then one knows for sure that Hell is loose...
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    Question Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Quote Originally Posted by Asthor
    The " friends" list..
    I`d rather be in Hell...
    and the forerunner.." It`s not you, it`s me...Then one knows for sure that Hell is loose
    But do you think its true that men only have one "list"?

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    Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Quote Originally Posted by Bridie
    But do you think its true that men only have one "list"?
    I have at least 2 -3 lists myself,
    the nonactual candidates, and then those few I could like to blend with...

    The love list
    The sex list
    The not actual list

    Last edited by Hoarsewhisper; Sunday, March 19th, 2006 at 11:11 AM.
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    Grin Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Ahhh... perhaps men are not so simple then! LOL

    Here are my lists...

    1) Love and sex
    2) Love
    3) Like most of the time
    4) Tolerate in small doses
    5) Get away from me you twat!
    6) If I ever get my hands on you, you're a dead man. ( LOL)

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    AW: Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Real men don't have any lists whatsoever.
    And all my youth passed by sad-hearted,
    the joy of Spring was never mine;
    Autumn blows through me dread of parting,
    and my heart dreams and longs to die.

    - Nikolaus Lenau (1802-1850)

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    - Giacomo Leopardi (1798-1837)

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    "I just want to be friends" and gays

    Quote Originally Posted by Bridie
    Here's a question:
    (a genuine question, I'm not trying to be a smart-ass)
    How would you feel if...
    i had to pause
    before answering this question,
    because it brought back so many memories.

    i was very slow to catch on to the concept
    that some guys became sexually attracted to me
    (i was completely and desperately pre-occupied
    trying to convince girls to have sex with me).

    in hind-sight, i realised that many offers by men
    went completely unnoticed by me.
    my lack of response
    apparently prevented any soap-opera-like out-bursts.
    it allowed them to pretend
    that no thing had happened.
    some drifted away; some remained friends
    and we, later, laughed at my lack of perception.

    the one galvanic moment of comprehension
    came as a guy leaned in to kiss me.

    i always maintain eye-contact during conversations,
    so, my eyes crossed as his face approached mine
    - painfully so - as his lips touched mine.

    at my change of expression,
    he pulled back and asked me
    what was wrong. i babbled
    that i had never done that before.

    he seemed surprised,
    "but, i always see you with neal and bob at the gym?
    aren't you...?"

    "no. we work-out together,
    because we have the same routine."

    he was not one of those insecure nellies
    that reacts to rejection
    like a hysterical "friend of dorothy", so,
    there was no problem.

    the homos that i know
    seem to have just as many psychological flaws
    and just as much emotional development retardation
    as most of the heteros that i know.

    as far as i can tell,
    heterosexual activity is no panacea
    for that lack of personal growth.

    i have no problem with gays.
    which is what mis-led the guy from the gym.
    I felt a bit betrayed
    and like I never really knew him at all
    because he'd kept his real feelings from me.

    all of the other feelings
    the two of you had shared
    were not his real feelings?
    you did not respond to that important question.
    Quote Originally Posted by Bridie
    ...(I could only know what he told me)...
    It wasn't about him respecting boundaries (I didn't think)
    because romantic interest had never come up in conversation
    for either of us to set those boundaries iykwim?
    the only understanding of him
    that you had
    were those things that he spoke out-loud?
    Last edited by lei.talk; Tuesday, March 21st, 2006 at 03:24 AM.

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    Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Men do not have woman as friends. Men may have friends who they do not recognise as female, though they are, but they do not have 'women who are friends'.
    All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream at night, in the dusky recesses of their minds, wake in the day to find that it was vanity. But the dreamers of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dreams, with open eyes, to make it possible.

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    Re: AW: Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Quote Originally Posted by Phlegethon
    Real men don't have any lists whatsoever.
    Maybe, but you have far to go before you becomes a man, little boy... And what homosexuals imagined you such? Your "uncle" perhaps?...











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    Re: "I just want to be friends"

    Cause women are manipulative. A lot of times a woman will just keep guy friends around so it seems like she has a lot of suitors therefore raising her price. Also she may want to keep her options open.

    What women lack in physical strength they make up for in sheer cat like sneakness. That's God's gift to women.

    Women can't live with them can't live without.

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