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  • I haven't found the right person yet. (I'm still looking).

    68 53.13%
  • Traumatic experiences with past relationships. (I've decided not to look anymore).

    5 3.91%
  • I want to focus on my career or studies.

    10 7.81%
  • I don't like being tied down/I'm only into casual relationships.

    3 2.34%
  • My significant other passed away and I don't wish to replace him/her with anyone.

    3 2.34%
  • I'm asexual or genuinely not interested in relationships.

    7 5.47%
  • I consider myself too ugly, etc. to be in a relationship.

    8 6.25%
  • I consider myself too selfish and prefer being on my own.

    7 5.47%
  • Other (Specify please).

    17 13.28%
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sigurd View Post
    It's different in this relationship, and certainly so at this stage, for some reason. Whether it's due to having some distance between each other for a while not so long ago; or perhaps it's due to me working night-shifts (she works day-shifts); or perhaps it's also because I've reached the point where I'm ready to not just love a person, but to actually sort of settle down with them.
    This goes back to what I was stating earlier about reaching out in the middle of night and knowing the person you love is there with you. It is the most addictive feeling I have ever had and often you don't realize it until it is gone.

    I dare say that is the point you know you are in it to win it. Most long term single people don't know this feeling and have trouble grasping it.
    Life is like a fire hydrant- sometimes you help people put out their fires, but most of the time you just get peed on by every dog in the neighborhood.

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    Single people aren't missing out on anything. At least the ones who like being single and want to keep it that way. Those numbers of people are growing exponentially. Once again society is the culprit.

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    • I have high standards and morals.
    • I hardly ever meet a girl I’d like to be with.
    • However probably the biggest thing is when I’m really attracted I have a fear of failure or rejection. I have trouble approaching and as a self-protection thing seem to snub or ignore them.

    This time last year I had high hopes of things going places with a beautiful Anglo-Scandinavian girl and became somewhat enamoured fantasizing of a future together. Unfortunately it seems those hopes are dashed and she seems no longer interested. I have myself to blame somewhat as the last time I saw her she walked right up to me and I snubbed her. Anyway I recently wrote to her saying she was way out of my league and making light of things in the hope of seeing her again. I have not received a response. To be honest the whole thing has made me rather bitter and unjustifiably somewhat angry towards her.
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    I'm also still single. I don't put myself out there to meet people. I think I'll be a spinster/old maid the rest of my life. I've always wanted to be married but to be happily married. It just never happened for me. I avoided disasters that would have made me miserable. It's better to be alone than to be with someone and be miserable wishing you were alone.

    edit: I guess I also have high standards compared to some people. I don't think it's too much to ask for a male version of myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elizabeth View Post
    I don't think it's too much to ask for a male version of myself.
    In olden days, people would oft come together young and then grow with each other and would by design become male/female versions of each other over time.

    Quote Originally Posted by The Aesthete View Post
    However probably the biggest thing is when I’m really attracted I have a fear of failure or rejection. I have trouble approaching and as a self-protection thing seem to snub or ignore them.
    This isn't also your problem, this is your chief problem. See it this way: If you want to win the lottery, you sort of need to buy a ticket first. It's not that difficult, most won't bite, and if they're not interested, you haven't actually lost anything because you came with nothing and went with nothing.
    -In kalte Schatten versunken... /Germaniens Volk erstarrt / Gefroren von Lügen / In denen die Welt verharrt-
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    -Auch ich verspüre Demut / Vor dem alten Geiste der Ahnen / Wird es mir vergönnt sein / Gen Walhalla aufzufahren?-

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Aesthete View Post
    This time last year I had high hopes of things going places with a beautiful Anglo-Scandinavian girl and became somewhat enamoured fantasizing of a future together. Unfortunately it seems those hopes are dashed and she seems no longer interested. I have myself to blame somewhat as the last time I saw her she walked right up to me and I snubbed her. Anyway I recently wrote to her saying she was way out of my league and making light of things in the hope of seeing her again. I have not received a response. To be honest the whole thing has made me rather bitter and unjustifiably somewhat angry towards her.
    I know I'm still new again to this being single stuff, but I have learned a thing or three.

    Never put yourself down! I went through a short period where my self confidence was down and it was horrible. I think I'm better now, but the point is I am finding that women like a man that is confident in themselves.
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    I'm 39 but still single.

    My reasons.

    - Picky about women's weight and I live in a country where over 60% of adult females are fat, creating a kind of "mate scarcity". Healthy weight women are snapped up and are rarely single. It also means healthy weight women are more picky and bitchy. I simply can't be with a fatty.

    - Not that attractive myself, I'm not fat, though I don't think I'm ugly. Just self aware.

    - Most women seem a bit thick.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Skerritt View Post
    I'm 39 but still single. My reasons.
    So you basically admit you're not perfect yourself but are likewise looking for a 'perfect woman'. Most of the times, I see women having this issue of "waiting for the prince in shining armour", so this is novelty.

    I first noticed something like this when a girl we studied with kept on complaining about why she wouldn't find a decent man. Turns out she wanted him to be rich, intelligent, handsome, sporty and funny. She on the other hand was amongst the thickest in class, not exactly the looker, quite severely overweight and quite boring too, though she did come from an upmarket family.

    We never quite dared break the truth to her, but the guy she was looking for was definitely way out of her league, and she simply didn't have a place to be that picky.

    Picky about women's weight and I live in a country where over 60% of adult females are fat, creating a kind of "mate scarcity". [...] I simply can't be with a fatty.
    I understand that a woman who is ridiculously out of shape can be a turn-off. At the same time, what are you going to do if you got yourself an athletic woman and when she was pregnant with your child she gained weight and had troubles losing it afterwards. Would you leave her, with an out of wedlock child on top of it?

    I've never been too bothered about size, as long as everything was in proportion, and have dated women of various sizes. I will admit I do cherish the fact my girlfriend is fairly slim (of course I'll still love her to bits if she suddenly woke up somewhat buxom), and will also occasionally comment upon an out-of-shape overweight woman when walking in town. Then again, the difference between you and I is: I have a girlfriend, and as such I'm in a position to have an opinion about this.

    From your perspective however, make sure you never mention this to any girl. Most women have an issue with their weight, because the media and various industries very much like keeping women in a position where they're never quite happy with their size. So if this viewpoint, which appears very superficial, especially in a single man, spreads around chance are that not only might you not ruin your chances with the 'fatty' you weren't into anyway; her more slender friends might 'magically' be off the menu for you as well.

    - Most women seem a bit thick.
    A lot of people are thick in general, this applies to men and women alike. It just tends to show a lot more in women, because the thick women spend their free time out in town shopping and drinking, whilst the thick men spend their free time at home playing video games. That being said, you're still not doing a favour to your market value if you ever state this anywhere near a girl.

    You do apply unrealistic standards to women though, and the only upside you have to a man who does the same: As a man, your market value doesn't drop the older you get, it stays roughly the same (less youthfulness and virility, more experience and provider-vibes).
    -In kalte Schatten versunken... /Germaniens Volk erstarrt / Gefroren von Lügen / In denen die Welt verharrt-
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    -Auch ich verspüre Demut / Vor dem alten Geiste der Ahnen / Wird es mir vergönnt sein / Gen Walhalla aufzufahren?-

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    I'm single because I like it that way. No commitment. Can do what I feel like. More and more people are staying single. You want to know why? Because back in the day people felt pressured into marrying and having kids and all that bs. Deep in their heart they wanted to be single but because of society sticking their big ugly brown nose into people's lives and coercing them into marrying and having kids they did just that. Lots of those marriages were absolute trainwrecks that never should have happened. Thank God people are giving society their middle finger and are going with their heart's desire. The world keeps getting worse and worse. Why on earth would you want to bring a kid into this ugly world? Even marriage is a joke. You weren't born married. You can make your life complete on your own without outside interference from someone else. Free will/Freedom of choice. That is a Germanic virtue after all. Cherish it and take advantage of it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by saxonbrit View Post
    I'm single because I like it that way. No commitment. Can do what I feel like. More and more people are staying single. You want to know why? Because back in the day people felt pressured into marrying and having kids and all that bs. Deep in their heart they wanted to be single but because of society sticking their big ugly brown nose into people's lives and coercing them into marrying and having kids they did just that. Lots of those marriages were absolute trainwrecks that never should have happened. Thank God people are giving society their middle finger and are going with their heart's desire. The world keeps getting worse and worse. Why on earth would you want to bring a kid into this ugly world? Even marriage is a joke. You weren't born married. You can make your life complete on your own without outside interference from someone else. Free will/Freedom of choice. That is a Germanic virtue after all. Cherish it and take advantage of it.
    Right, because being a shallow, childless person, with little purpose whatsoever to your existence, is a Germanic "virtue".

    What you describe as pressure was a normal societal unit, which kept Germanic society together and clean, and ensured the continuity of our people.

    Giving society the middle finger by not having a family is as virtuous as picking your nose with your finger in public and being an "activist" about it.

    The irony of it all is that the demise of traditional marriage and traditional gender/family roles didn't result in a better, more independent society. You admitted it yourself, "the world keeps getting worse and worse". So all this liberal garbage about being free and people following "their heart's desire" contributed nothing of worth. It was this culture that created children raised by videogames, pornography addicts and sexual deviants.

    And what kind of argument is "you weren't born married"? You weren't born dressed either, so why bother wearing clothes?

    I'm quite happily married and my marriage and family aren't forms of slavery. I can do what I want too, my husband doesn't enslave me. But then again, I'm not a sexual deviant, pervert or promiscuous whore who needs to spend my nights in a different club, with a different sexual partner every time. Usually people who equate relationships with being tied up are either people who didn't have any quality relationships or who have a problem with staying committed and loyal to something.

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