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  • I haven't found the right person yet. (I'm still looking).

    68 53.13%
  • Traumatic experiences with past relationships. (I've decided not to look anymore).

    5 3.91%
  • I want to focus on my career or studies.

    10 7.81%
  • I don't like being tied down/I'm only into casual relationships.

    3 2.34%
  • My significant other passed away and I don't wish to replace him/her with anyone.

    3 2.34%
  • I'm asexual or genuinely not interested in relationships.

    7 5.47%
  • I consider myself too ugly, etc. to be in a relationship.

    8 6.25%
  • I consider myself too selfish and prefer being on my own.

    7 5.47%
  • Other (Specify please).

    17 13.28%
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    Why Are You Single?

    Judging by forum statistics, a total of 36.85% Skadi members are single.

    http://forums.skadi.net/statistics.p...rofile&show=10

    Probably more since not everyone complete their profile or choose standard options.

    The importance and desire of nationalists having children has been discussed in several threads. But we shouldn't overlook the possible root of the problem. Why are so many people, especially those in their 20s and 30s single, even on a nationalist forum? Should the statistics be alarming or is it an acceptable trend? Is it a choice of lifestyle or a result of a decayed society we live in?

    Please pick a poll option or describe your situation accurately.

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    To be honest, I haven't really looked. And why not? No need to. I'm comfortable being single, gives me more alone time, something I personally need a lot of.
    In regards to the whole "having children" part: Well yeah, eventually I would definitely settle down with a mate and have children, but she would have to be 100% right for me, and 100% willing to preserve our people and culture. I don't think when most people who said they are single, said they were, they didn't mean they never wanted kids.

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    I am single mostly because I want to be and partially because it's hard to find anyone anyway. I have a tendency to be relatively picky and also when I do have a boyfriend I find they become crude/clingy (i.e. asking me to do 'things' with them in a less than romantic way*, talking about other women in a detailed sexual manner (ok when he's with his friends but I really don't know what they want to do with 'X' girl), not letting me wear what I want, go out with friends who he thinks are a 'bad influence' etc.) with me, which leads to me being put off completely and bored with the relationship.

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    I haven't found the right person yet. (I'm still looking).
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    I want to focus on my career or studies. (need to focus on studies right now)


    And a small part:
    "I consider myself too selfish and prefer being on my own."

    It's good to not be tied down (But it's not like I would sleep around). And I'm a bit picky I guess.

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    I chose: I consider myself too ugly, etc. to be in a relationship

    You're always going to find inflated numbers of single people on the internet. Yes, normal people use it too, but abnormal people use it much more. But even in terms of the internet, I'm abnormal when it comes to this (and everything else, tbh, but that's another matter). When you compare me to real people in the real world, I'm a one-in-a-thousand case, really. Nobody I went to school with or knew even casually has had as little success as I've had. There are simply no other 26 year olds I know of (except for my cousin) who've never not been single like me, so I wouldn't really fear a demographic catastrophe stemming from what was first documented in the 'Hamar Fox' case.

    A certain percentage of men are invisible to most members of the opposite sex. A certain percentage of those are invisible to all members of the opposite sex. I belong to that latter category. I accepted this long ago and am at ease with the fact. The fact that I'm a loner, probably the most extreme loner I know of, adds to my invisibility, definitely, but it also adds to my ability to cope with it too.

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    Well, my case is quite complicated and more of a mix of poll option 1 and 2, which would be: "Traumatic experiences with past relationships and I havent found the right person yet."

    I guess most of the longstanding members of the board know that I was pregnant and engaged few years ago, but that Im not married and no mother today. This leads to poll option 2, "Traumatic experiences": The loss of my unborn child ruined my life for many subsequent months, and I was depressed, demotivated and pretty much unbearable in my gloomy mood and my temper tantrums. It eventually lead to the break of my relationship only weeks before the scheduled marriage because my fianc left me but it was (at least particularly) my own fault because I know that I was good for nothing. After the cancellation of our marriage I was ashamed of myself and ashamed of facing my friends and relatives, but I got myself out of this down phase as time went by, especially because the support of my family and my friends was just overwhelming! I had one short relationship since then (with the son of the local butcher ) but it didnt develop further to something serious.

    So yes, I think Im too careful at the moment, too unable to trust a potential partner as strong as it should be, and also too afraid of repeating old mistakes. I dont want to endure the same horrible mental phases again - all the negative experiences are still in my head. And to be honest, Im horribly afraid of losing my next baby like the first pregnancy. The reason for my miscarriage is uncertain, doctors couldnt find a specific cause or reason back then.

    The things mentioned above plus my more introverted character are very likely the reason why Im a single at the moment. But I have the plan to get married and start an own family before I get 30! Ill not give up that dream.

    "Judge of your natural character by what you do in your dreams" - Ralph Waldo Emerson

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    I'm suprised you didn't include Social Anxiety or even its non-pathological form, shyness as a poll option. It may suprise you but a significant number of people don't see themselves as "ugly" or unfit for a relationship yet find it incredibly hard to reach out to members of the opposite sex.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sven View Post
    I'm suprised you didn't include Social Anxiety or even its non-pathological form, shyness as a poll option. It may suprise you but a significant number of people don't see themselves as "ugly" or unfit for a relationship yet find it incredibly hard to reach out to members of the opposite sex.
    Involuntary celibacy?

    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Involuntary_celibacy

    I like to call it 'Travis Bickle Syndrome'

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ingw View Post
    Not quite the same thing unless you equate having a relationship with having sex. Many shy guys having regular sex with the help of a miraculous beverage called beer There's a bit more to having a relationship.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ingw View Post
    I like to call it 'Travis Bickle Syndrome'
    Never watched Taxi driver. Any good?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sven View Post
    Not quite the same thing unless you equate having a relationship with having sex. Many shy guys having regular sex with the help of a miraculous beverage called beer There's a bit more to having a relationship.
    True, although I think thats what they infer also as one leading to another, it's the absence of forming an intimate sexual relationship which would naturally lead to sex. Anybody can go to a prostitute.

    "Involuntary celibacy is the absence in human sexuality of intimate relationships or sexual intercourse for reasons other than voluntary celibacy, asexuality, antisexualism, or sexual abstinence."

    So it is related to what you're saying.

    Never watched Taxi driver. Any good?
    Great movie. Brutal at the end.

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