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  • I haven't found the right person yet. (I'm still looking).

    68 53.13%
  • Traumatic experiences with past relationships. (I've decided not to look anymore).

    5 3.91%
  • I want to focus on my career or studies.

    10 7.81%
  • I don't like being tied down/I'm only into casual relationships.

    3 2.34%
  • My significant other passed away and I don't wish to replace him/her with anyone.

    3 2.34%
  • I'm asexual or genuinely not interested in relationships.

    7 5.47%
  • I consider myself too ugly, etc. to be in a relationship.

    8 6.25%
  • I consider myself too selfish and prefer being on my own.

    7 5.47%
  • Other (Specify please).

    17 13.28%
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    Quote Originally Posted by Loyalist View Post
    A combination of one, two, and "other". As it concerns the latter, I have no serious relationship experience, I am extremely shy, and am quite introverted, so it makes meeting, asking out, and keeping girls interested very difficult. The dates I have been on have always been the result of her making the first move; I just cannot seem to do it no matter how much I want to.

    When it comes to meeting the right person, that has been a serious problem, although I feel it did happen once, despite the way it turned out (which, in retrospect, was mostly my fault for not handling the situation appropriately). I definitely value personality/intelligence over looks, and the problem I find is that 90% of the girls at my school are of the intellectually vacuous, shallow, "airhead" sort who want nothing more out of life than to dress slutty and waste their time in clubs and so on. While the vast majority of guys my age throw themselves at those types, I find nothing - absolutely nothing - attractive about them, not even on a physical level.

    Finally, past relationship trauma has definitely now come into play in my case. This last girl, of whom most of you aware, has basically left me dead inside due to a variety of factors. I had liked her for years, and she came to me, so it was too good to be true. Then, it turns out we had an exceptional amount in common; same (rather unconventional) interests in music, films, books and so on. We both come from similarly dysfunctional families, so we were really able to identify with and confide in one another. We support the same football team. We even have the same rare blood type. Best of all, she is extremely intelligent. I was truly happy for a few months for the first time in my life, and then it ended because, as I mentioned, I am clueless as to what to do in a relationship and her patience with me just ran out. I know I will never find anyone like that again; somebody I was comfortable with, had a proper connection to, shared the same interests, and who completely changed my outlook on life for the better. I am simply unable to get over it, and I have thought about giving up.

    I am certainly not single by choice, and I am extremely unhappy, both in terms of having never really found anyone for too long and, when I finally did, it ended with me being hurt worse than I have ever been.
    You're only frickin' 22 years old!!! Relax! You have plenty of time my friend. Take the time to enhance who you are. So when you DO meet that special someone, she's totally enthralled with you.
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    I'm single because I haven't yet found the right woman. Thinking of my past relationships, a couple of them very painful to think about, doesn't do much for me.
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    I've never dated anyone. I could list lots of reasons why, but when one comes down to the crux of the matter, it's that I'm simply a socially awkward teenager who isn't good at talking to males and doesn't exactly look like the women on the cover of the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Edition. xD
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    I am single and abstinent by choice. I am a strong independent woman who only needs myself. I love me. Also, I am still single because my heart is in Norway.
    After going to Norway and seeing the quality of life and all of my family( whho are still happily in love with their partners) I feel like I could not be happy with Canadian or American men. I also want to keep my Norwegian bloodline going if I can have kids, and I have not met any Scandinavian men as suitors here as of yet. This will change soon I hope. I really cannot connect with colonials it seems.

    Also, The Canadian men that I have dated were extremely abusive to me. They have done horrific things to me that no woman should ever have to experience. I am scared to open myself up to anyone again. All men just treat me like I am worthless and nothing and take advantage of me. I know that we cannot pick or chose who we fall in love with, but love just always hurts and causes so much pain. What is the point? I'd rather be happy alone and not be abused.
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    I voted for the first one, but I feel it's that.. and a combination of a few others. I tend to be really bad at socializing with people I haven't known for a while, find it difficult to make new friends my own age off the bat. None of that will help. I can't complain though, I think my mom (who was very social) was worried about my socializing skills being an only child and she went well out of her way to include me with introductions and time spent with friends of her's as a child. I was able to meet different people from different walks of life, most of whom my mother knew through work or church. Most of that foundation that was built, didn't flourish in my teen years though. Which is I would assume, mostly my fault.

    So-now I'm just comfortable with not being in or planning to be in any type of relationship. I do feel like I've "wasted away" my 20's. But that in itself is better in the long run than relationships at their worst.

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    I am single and have always been, since my teens and through my 'adult life'. Casual relationships have never made any sense to me. In fact, most relationships I see around me doesn't make much sense to me. There doesn't seem to be any deep emotional and spiritual connection. It seems more like a job contract, in many ways, fueled by sexual needs and a fear of being lonely.

    Even as far back as I could remember, to primary school, I would turn down any advances (although it is more of a 'role play' at those ages) if I couldn't imagine myself being with that person indefinetely. And I've kept that attitude all my life. Anything else would be betrayal towards my future wife, whom deserves all my devotion and faithfulness.

    That principle, combined with the depressingly low standards of potential female partners these days (and male, as well, from the perspective of the opposite sex), have inevitably lead to my rather poor track record. And I don't regret it for one second, even as hard it might be some times.
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    I voted other.
    Right now I don't make enough to pay all my own bills with the part time job I have now. I'm getting financial help from my grandparents. They pay my car and health insurance, they pay for my gas and some of my groceries and whatever else I need help with.
    I just can't see myself in a relationship unless I can support myself. I don't want to be a mooch. -Although I have it in my mind to be a stay at home mom until my kid (or kids) are in kindergarten. So while I don't want to be a mooch, I still hope whoever I meet will be able to be the sole breadwinner for a few years. (Not a personal requirement, but it would be nice.)

    Also I could cite personal traumatic experience. I only lived with both my parents until I was 7 years old when my mom took me from school one day and we left the state we lived in. I thought she'd learned about what my own father had done to me - along with the other physical and emotional abuse he put me and my mother through. I learned later on that my mother had found out that he'd had an affair that produced a child. It wasn't until recently that I learned that my parents met or at least started dating in April and married in October and had me the following August. (Way too fast in my opinion.)

    I know full well that not all men are psychopathic (no diagnosis, but he fits the bill on the descriptions I've read very, very well), child molesting, abusive pricks like my father was. There's still a part of me, deep down that is suspicious of all men. I've heard of how nice my father could be, he can be a real charmer when he wants to be. I sometimes think it would be easier if I were a lesbian , but the reality is I'm not. I'd love to meet someone someday, get married (eventually) and raise a family. I just need to know that it'd be someone I could trust and would be a decent father to our kids.
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    I chose other.

    I'm really shy and anxious for one thing, so it's extremely difficult for me to make friends let alone find a romantic partner. I need to work on my appearance and I just haven't found the right person I think. I was bullied a lot when I was younger so I think it really turned me off of people.

    This might sound weird but I really don't find most American guys attractive. I think it's the accent, I really like accents from Germanic countries. I would prefer to be with someone from a Germanic European country rather than the U.S. Especially when it came to having a family.
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    I'm single because cultural marxism has destroyed the fabric of society that provides a fertile ground for our people to come together and have a normal healthy relationship. Whenever I seemed to find the right person, bullshit having to do with money always tore us apart. I think that happens to a lot of people. Folks like the Amish don't seem to have that problem though, because they are oriented upon family and community rather than toward fitting into the modern corporate-dominated slave factory the rest of us are tied to.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thusnelda View Post
    It eventually lead to the break of my relationship only weeks before the scheduled marriage because my fiancé left me but it was (at least particularly) my own fault because I know that I was good for nothing.
    Listen to yourself... blaming yourself and saying you were good for nothing...

    I remember when you found out you were pregnant, you were terrified at first, as you were really young, and then super excited and ecstatic... and then things went wrong... For any woman, especially a woman your age at the time, such a trauma is very serious and needs a lot of time, a lot of support from family and friends, professional counselling, and especially support from your partner....

    It seems your partner could not bear the situation and stand up to the circumstances. I remember he was 30(ish?) so he ought to be a bit more mature and stronger than you who was 19 or 20 at the time.

    So in this case you should be the last one to blame. Marriage is not all happiness and joy, there's a phrase saying "for better or for worse" for that reason.
    This means something; spouses (or potential spouses for that matter) ought to stand by each other no matter how hard the times. He hadn't quite gotten that part. They say every cloud has a silver lining, and I believe this was it; not ending up married to a man who was not strong enough. In the end, I am glad you didn't marry him. You deserve a lot better.
    You're doing well now, being careful and reluctant and all. Be patient and someone good will come your way

    Quote Originally Posted by Loyalist View Post
    I am certainly not single by choice, and I am extremely unhappy, both in terms of having never really found anyone for too long and, when I finally did, it ended with me being hurt worse than I have ever been.
    You're still very young and I wouldn't have expected of a man of your style and thinking to be any less shy and awkward around women.

    I know you since you were 17 or something, and you always were far more serious and intellectual, not just for your average 17 year old but compared to the average man in his mid-20s or even 30s as well

    I've had many male friends like you. They're extremely intelligent, well-read, and intellectually adept - and uneasy around women.

    The majority of women nowadays are entirely superficial and naive and they cannot appreciate a man with a high intellect.

    That means you have quality. It might be harder for you to get a lady, but once you do, it will be for life, not just superficial fooling around with lots of girls and no substance. I wish you the best, you deserve a nice life with someone


    Quote Originally Posted by Ęlfrun View Post
    Also, The Canadian men that I have dated were extremely abusive to me. They have done horrific things to me that no woman should ever have to experience.
    I hope you don't mean physical abuse.... Have you reported any of this to the authorities?

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