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  • I haven't found the right person yet. (I'm still looking).

    68 53.13%
  • Traumatic experiences with past relationships. (I've decided not to look anymore).

    5 3.91%
  • I want to focus on my career or studies.

    10 7.81%
  • I don't like being tied down/I'm only into casual relationships.

    3 2.34%
  • My significant other passed away and I don't wish to replace him/her with anyone.

    3 2.34%
  • I'm asexual or genuinely not interested in relationships.

    7 5.47%
  • I consider myself too ugly, etc. to be in a relationship.

    8 6.25%
  • I consider myself too selfish and prefer being on my own.

    7 5.47%
  • Other (Specify please).

    17 13.28%
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    I still haven't found my significant other. Nor have I devoted much time into it, so I am partly to blame. I do have "love interests" but I can't see them really going anywhere. Part of the problem is self-satisfaction; everyone is out to get theirs in life without considering their potential mate. Those who pursure higher education, especially, are less likely to have lasting partners until post grad., as usually they're on the move going to university to university, with little time in between.

    Those who join Skadi are of a different breed than those who can easily get girlfriends/boyfriends. Usually more introverted, concerned with the bigger picture, these are the kind of people who usually aren't social butterflies. Not to mention the superficiality of relationships in the modern age, we're encouraged by the media and certain philosophies of being purly material when it comes to marital interaction, and not sticking out through difficulties of matrimony, or even base relationships.

    I do still cling to the hope that logos will bring into my life a lovely young woman worthy of my devotion, as to when I don't rightly know.

    I suppose the remedy is to get off Skadi and live IRL.

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    Ha, great thread idea. I have analyzed why I am single recently. I have multiple reasons for it. The first reason being the most obvious one ... because I have not found the right woman. I have never been married (almost talked into it twice) and I am 35. I have been in relationships for most of my life starting at age 12. Like I mentioned before, I love women so I started early. I'm very romantic I suppose. The females in my area are not my "type". If they're beautiful externally, then they're very superficial, trendy or materialistic. And usually not knowledgeable in politics and spirituality. I wish I was in love. I really want to experience love making in the purest sense. I have been intimate with women many, many times ... but I know that I have not achieved absolute sexual bliss until I have made 100% pure love. And there's only one way to that, and that is to be in love. Maybe I never will? Is it too much to ask for a woman with looks and brains? I'm not saying that they're not out there of course, they're just not here.
    I must admit too, I am very odd. Which will either make a woman interested/curious or standoffish. Also, I have many other things that fulfill my life. I don't "NEED" a woman or a relationship to feel complete. And I have also trained myself to enjoy being alone and being totally self-reliant and self-sufficient. Though like I said, i'm sure being in love is a magnificent thing.
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    There are many factors contributing to my unfortunate situation, and the following all apply to me somewhat:

    I haven't found the right person yet. (I'm still looking).
    I want to focus on my career or studies.
    I consider myself too ugly, etc. to be in a relationship.
    I consider myself too selfish and prefer being on my own.

    First of all, I don't have a great plethora of women to choose from. Since adolescence, my father subtly put into my head that I should only look for women with blue eyes (or at least light eyes). In the past, this served as a crude mechanism to prevent marriage with southern Europeans or any potentially mixed people. Before he ever mentioned this, I already had come to a similar natural conclusion because I learned what the normal trait was within my family compared to others. Take this in context of non-homogenous American society. Correct or not, it's burned into my brain what I prefer. Being such a rare trait in non-northern Florida, this alone severely limits my choices. Living in such a society, I am naturally suspicious of darker-eyed people unless it's obvious they are 100% this or that (English/Dutch/German, etc.) with a particular look. But that's rare.

    I am in professional school and being single has allowed me to focus more on my studies, other than being distracted by the occasional pretty lady.

    In much of high school I thought I was ugly because I expected the girls to approach me. How naive I was. This is partially my own fault but I also did not have a father/uncle/brother telling how it works. Dad was there but didn't think to give me any guidance. He probably preferred I focus on my studies, anyway. People occasionally tell me I am handsome but I don't consider myself really good-looking.

    I'm not selfish and don't prefer being alone all the time, but I have always fared well with only a few close friends or on my own with a computer, being an only-child and all. I am naturally introverted and can be very social with people I know, but uncomfortable around people I don't know.

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    I have chosen to focus on my career, and I'm considering going back to school. I also have taken some time off from dating because I had Brain surgery a few years ago. Sometimes a traumatic event can put things in prospective, and help you realize what is important.

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    The woman I met 6 months ago was still technically married (though separated) with 2 kids with 2 different fathers, being evicted from her home, coming off SSRI's and heavy on Ambien. Holidays came, divorce settlement came, and she completely freaked. Oh and I'm 26 and she is 34, it was bound to work out, right?

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    My "love story".

    After much waiting, I screwed up my chances with the right girl when she finally did come along, and the really hilarious part of the story is that I didn't figure out until years later that it was my own damn fault that we never got together (she found out I had been with someone else after I had met her - that I had been unfaithful to her before we even got together - but I only slept with that someone else a) so as not to offend her, because she was a friend, and b) because I'd never had a one night stand before, and I figured that if I ever was going to have a one night stand, the smart money would be on having it before I became involved in a serious life-long relationship with someone, and not after).

    So I spent years watching the love I felt for her slowly turn into loathing, all the while feeling blissfully innocent in my own self - indeed aggrieved - and vowing to patiently wait for the next right girl to come along rather than waste my time in the futile pursuit of the current right girl. And she spent years patiently waiting for the penny to drop, refusing to let me know that she felt wronged by me and that that was what made her reject my advances, all the while making increasingly desperate efforts to indicate to me that any future advances I made would quite likely be viewed favourably by her. But when the penny did finally drop, the love was long buried, and I wasn't even hating her very much anymore - the feelings were gone and I was left wondering whether I should make a special effort to feel remorse about the entire matter.

    And now, even though by my calculations enough time has passed for my creaky little heart to dare allow itself to love again, I still feel in limbo somewhat. Lesson for the ladies: you can get revenge, you can get an apology, and you can get the man, but you're rarely going to get all three at once!

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    I chose the first option, but I could equally have chosen the second. I think it's very hard to find a girl who doesn't only accept what I fight for, but also supports and encourages me. All the girlfriends I had so far turned out to be selfish, materialistic and brainwashed puppets. It's a pity.

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    I was severely physically and emotionally abused and neglected by my English stepfather and mother.
    The only respite and also the best time of my life was the 3 years I spent in a childrens home.

    To sum it up, I learnt from my primary caregivers, that I was loathsome and unlovable, any woman who ever tried to love me was soon rejected by me as it felt to me like some sort of perversion, causing me to lose any respect for her.

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    I am single at the moment, but in the nearby future, that will no longer be the case. I am currently -how do you say this?- courting somebody, and she seems to play along, so we will see soon.
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    A combination of one, two, and "other". As it concerns the latter, I have no serious relationship experience, I am extremely shy, and am quite introverted, so it makes meeting, asking out, and keeping girls interested very difficult. The dates I have been on have always been the result of her making the first move; I just cannot seem to do it no matter how much I want to.

    When it comes to meeting the right person, that has been a serious problem, although I feel it did happen once, despite the way it turned out (which, in retrospect, was mostly my fault for not handling the situation appropriately). I definitely value personality/intelligence over looks, and the problem I find is that 90% of the girls at my school are of the intellectually vacuous, shallow, "airhead" sort who want nothing more out of life than to dress slutty and waste their time in clubs and so on. While the vast majority of guys my age throw themselves at those types, I find nothing - absolutely nothing - attractive about them, not even on a physical level.

    Finally, past relationship trauma has definitely now come into play in my case. This last girl, of whom most of you aware, has basically left me dead inside due to a variety of factors. I had liked her for years, and she came to me, so it was too good to be true. Then, it turns out we had an exceptional amount in common; same (rather unconventional) interests in music, films, books and so on. We both come from similarly dysfunctional families, so we were really able to identify with and confide in one another. We support the same football team. We even have the same rare blood type. Best of all, she is extremely intelligent. I was truly happy for a few months for the first time in my life, and then it ended because, as I mentioned, I am clueless as to what to do in a relationship and her patience with me just ran out. I know I will never find anyone like that again; somebody I was comfortable with, had a proper connection to, shared the same interests, and who completely changed my outlook on life for the better. I am simply unable to get over it, and I have thought about giving up.

    I am certainly not single by choice, and I am extremely unhappy, both in terms of having never really found anyone for too long and, when I finally did, it ended with me being hurt worse than I have ever been.

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