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    How Do You Feel when Superiors Talk to You in a Condescending Manner?

    I had this experience today with a professor of mine. The tone in her voice, and speech pattern said "okay... off you go" as if I was, well, kind of like a homeless beggar crossed with an annoying little house pet. I know that I shouldn't really care - I know I am not quite where she is (intellectually and otherwise) and I have not accomplished anything significant in my life, but it still gets me. I am more or less "okay" with being disrespected by superiors if I know I did a poor job at something (I don't mind reproaches) but whenever it happens for no apparent reason, I get this "icky" feeling inside.

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    Nobody likes to be disrespected, so you're not alone.

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    I absolutely hate it. I hated it even as a child and teen. Being talked down to by teachers was never something I could take. I think it's fair to say I have an attitude problem, but only towards people who are condescending or impolite towards me.

    I don't think I really consider anyone above me. At best, I can see people as equals, so under no circumstances can I take people treating me as if I'm lower than they are. I had a lecturer who talked down to me one time. She wasn't exactly a people person. Almost everyone hated her. But this one time I asked her for an extension or something, and she gave me a really pissy reply. I got mad and just walked off. I was so tempted to say something there and then, but I was smart enough to know I'd regret it later. I'm not too good at hiding my emotions facially, though, so I'm sure she saw me going red in the face.

    Hating people talking down to you is just the sign of an unbound spirit that respects itself. If you don't mind people treating you like garbage, that's when you need to worry about having a proletarian self-concept.

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    Im an Englishman......therefore i dont have any supperiors.

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    It is unrelated to the topic but if one buys a firestarter, lits it and put it on the tire where the tank is one has a lot of time to walk away from it.

    the point is one is open to other people and thus to everybody. At times one learns to be closed to people one doesn't know and it is like a raincoat where the rain drops off. One basically shuts off some parts of the emotions and put other persons into a category of neutrals or enemies.

    Mentally one can project this and effect a person with it. Your thoughts are projected and most likely you projected your own feeling of inferiority and victimhood to her on which she reacted in the predictable way. Next time project to her the thought she is a slut and always keep that thought in your mind and see what happens, if the result is what you like continue otherwise start to experiment around.

    Projections of your thoughts are a very important clue how people treat you, just work on it. To increase the power you can make pictures in your head how she reacts to you and keep that picture and empower it with emotions, it will work.

    keep it on the decent side though as it has repercussions for yourself if you chose 'bad' projections but anyway, be a free men and do what you want.
    weel nich will dieken dej mot wieken

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    I absolutely hate it. My former boss always talked down to me in a oh-so-superior and faintly patronizing way, and every time I saw that smug expression on her face, I wondered what it would look like with a meat-cleaver smashed into it.

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    First of all, I don't think you should ever view someone as being superior to yourself. I know you meant 'superior' more as in a person in a position of authority over you, but still, this is important. A lot of the strain in human relations these days has been a result of deep-seated feelings of inferiority. All the politically correct crap today is a direct manifestation of some group or another being offended by something, thereby implicitly admitting inferiority. If you are confident in who you are in every aspect of your life, you can never be offended by anything.

    But yeah, it does bother me when someone talks down to me. However, after being upset by it for a couple of minutes, I take a step back and think of it in a different light, and I start to actually feel pity for the person. I hope I never become as bitter and cruel as them, and I actually thank them for showing me how not to act if I'm ever in their position myself.

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    I would be ashamed of myself if yelled at by the Queen of England, but not most outside my family. Typically, when I've been confronted in my youth, I would directly retaliate, but now mainly resort to humourous gossip.

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    Ha! There's a reason I work for myself! I cannot stand it, and I immediately get my back up, generally somebody would be lucky not to feel my wrath tbh! I might have ODD or something! I'm just not the kind of person to take any crap. (Also I'm not stupid. I'm not gonna get myself tazed or pepper sprayed by arguing with some dickhead cop!) I'm perfectly fine with somebody requesting I do something in a 'foodchain' manner, politely, but talk down or dogsbody me in anyway, absolutely not, it will 100% get an inverse reaction, especially if I think you're a prat already lol!

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    If they're male, like knocking their teeth down their throat. I had a very serious internal struggle not to do so just yesterday on the job.
    Petty little people seem to gravitate to supervisory positions.
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