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    Sex Drives That Are Too High

    It often seems to me that people with high sex drives who place a lot of importance on sexual relationships are despized by people who are asexual or have very low sex drives. Is it just me or is this true?

    I have always been very sexually agressive (to the point of annoyance); ever since the moment I matured and I can't help it. Part of what I think it may be caused by is my somewhat type A personality and an overactive thyroid. I always felt ostracized by the other kids who didn't care much for the opposite sex (not gay just low sex drive) and I felt like I was a freak (ie. I would get a sensation if I hugged a random guy). I had very little idea of what sex was and was not informed at all, so this naturally made it worse. I would go to school like every day and be constantly burdoned by sensations and adrenaline rushes if I thought about a guy for a split second or was touched or bumped into one. I probably thought about sex in a sort of involuntary way 60 or 75 times a day when I was in puberty; after a few years I calmed down but I still have a very high sex drive. I told other people about it and they acted like something was wrong with me; its true people don't normally act like that even hormone crazed teenagers.

    A lot of men who don't really care much about relationships don't understand my sexually agressive behavior and think I want to go all the way with them or something. This is not the case, I am just very expressive/passionate and need someone equally or more agressive than me.

    What do you think on the subject of high and low sex drives and what causes it? How should you handle finding a partner that is compatible with you in this way? I find that you can be compatible in other ways and not be compatible on terms of sex drive. I seem to be on the extreme end of things in terms of sex drive and I find that all the men with high sex drives like mine are usually bad news.

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    I find it's pretty normal at the start of a relationship to want to be, so to speak, 'at it like rabbits' all the time.
    Their sex drives tend to cool down after while though, after the 'honeymoon' period is over and they become more comfortable with each other the intercourse is something totally different (less frequent but usually longer and slightly better).
    I don't think all men who have a high sex drive are bad, maybe they just like to share intimate moments with the girl they like a lot/love a lot, which can only be a compliment I suppose.
    It's one of the most natural things in the world to have sex, so having a high sex drive isn't a bad thing, of course unless it's with some guy you've only known for a few hours but you don't seem like the kind of girl!

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    Quote Originally Posted by feisty goddess View Post
    It often seems to me that people with high sex drives who place a lot of importance on sexual relationships are despized by people who are asexual or have very low sex drives. Is it just me or is this true?

    I have always been very sexually agressive (to the point of annoyance); ever since the moment I matured and I can't help it. Part of what I think it may be caused by is my somewhat type A personality and an overactive thyroid. I always felt ostracized by the other kids who didn't care much for the opposite sex (not gay just low sex drive) and I felt like I was a freak (ie. I would get a sensation if I hugged a random guy). I had very little idea of what sex was and was not informed at all, so this naturally made it worse. I would go to school like every day and be constantly burdoned by sensations and adrenaline rushes if I thought about a guy for a split second or was touched or bumped into one. I probably thought about sex in a sort of involuntary way 60 or 75 times a day when I was in puberty; after a few years I calmed down but I still have a very high sex drive. I told other people about it and they acted like something was wrong with me; its true people don't normally act like that even hormone crazed teenagers.

    A lot of men who don't really care much about relationships don't understand my sexually agressive behavior and think I want to go all the way with them or something. This is not the case, I am just very expressive/passionate and need someone equally or more agressive than me.

    What do you think on the subject of high and low sex drives and what causes it? How should you handle finding a partner that is compatible with you in this way? I find that you can be compatible in other ways and not be compatible on terms of sex drive. I seem to be on the extreme end of things in terms of sex drive and I find that all the men with high sex drives like mine are usually bad news.
    This is just teasing us simple men. She does do a good job in desquising it within a hypothesis, since she was always sexualy agressive. You have ever met your match, by the way?

    I think high sexdrives are being caused by chemistry between the right men and women...mostly by women though, since you can never blame men for their biology..

    You are bad news though being that agressive, and on the other hand, you might be bliss. I am still not totally convinced.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bæny View Post
    I find it's pretty normal at the start of a relationship to want to be, so to speak, 'at it like rabbits' all the time.
    Their sex drives tend to cool down after while though, after the 'honeymoon' period is over and they become more comfortable with each other the intercourse is something totally different (less frequent but usually longer and slightly better).
    I don't think all men who have a high sex drive are bad, maybe they just like to share intimate moments with the girl they like a lot/love a lot, which can only be a compliment I suppose.
    It's one of the most natural things in the world to have sex, so having a high sex drive isn't a bad thing, of course unless it's with some guy you've only known for a few hours but you don't seem like the kind of girl!
    In terms of men with high sex drives, I meant that they tend to do bad stuff like cheat and look at porn constantly. But yeah, not all of them are like that, but they tend to be that way from my experience though.

    When I turned 14 and it started happening, I didn't really have much of an idea of what sex was and didn't understand what was happening to me. I totally freaked out; it really disrupted my life. What was happening was I think not normal to an extent though. Its not really normal to have adrenaline rushes 24/7 and get a sensation bumping into a guy or seeing him but my mom says she also had a very high sex drive at my age something like that so maybe its genetic.

    Quote Originally Posted by Mjolnir View Post
    This is just teasing us simple men. She does do a good job in desquising it within a hypothesis, since she was always sexualy agressive. You have ever met your match, by the way?

    I think high sexdrives are being caused by chemistry between the right men and women...mostly by women though, since you can never blame men for their biology..

    You are bad news though being that agressive, and on the other hand, you might be bliss. I am still not totally convinced.
    huh? lol. This is not a joke btw, I'm really serious. What I mean by sexually agressive is that I am considerably more focused on sex (or sexual things like kissing flirting etc. not actual intercourse persay if you know what I mean) compared to those around me. Its just that the men around me are kind of "hippy" and are not very dominant and my sex drive looks disproportionate paired with theirs because we typically think of men as being more driven than women. Its a bit hard to explain.

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    When I turned 14 and it started happening, I didn't really have much of an idea of what sex was and didn't understand what was happening to me. I totally freaked out; it really disrupted my life. What was happening was I think not normal to an extent though. Its not really normal to have adrenaline rushes 24/7 and get a sensation bumping into a guy or seeing him but my mom says she also had a very high sex drive at my age something like that so maybe its genetic.
    Ah well, it's pretty normal to get a bit excited when you see a guy that is very attractive.
    As long as you can control it it shouldn't be a such problem, unless it makes you feel embarrassed. For example, I know of a girl who's seriously got a VERY high sex drive, she split up with her boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and since then has already done the deed with 5 other guys.
    I suppose looking at porn isn't the end of the world though, albeit not too desirable. I guess most guys watch it but a lot of guys at the same time cease to when they get into relationships.

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    Fascinating topic!

    You can't fine-tune these things, unfortunately, but I've had a very high sex drive and (for a period) a very low/inexistant one.

    I won't go into great detail about this but can assure you, Feisty, that you are far better off with a high one. In fact, a sex drive is a person's main driving force (especially at your age) and without it you'd probably lose your will to live - I know I damn nearly did!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bæny View Post
    Ah well, it's pretty normal to get a bit excited when you see a guy that is very attractive.
    As long as you can control it it shouldn't be a such problem, unless it makes you feel embarrassed. For example, I know of a girl who's seriously got a VERY high sex drive, she split up with her boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and since then has already done the deed with 5 other guys.
    I suppose looking at porn isn't the end of the world though, albeit not too desirable. I guess most guys watch it but a lot of guys at the same time cease to when they get into relationships.
    I'm a very loyal person, so some of the things men with high sex drives tend to do bother me a lot. I have to be understanding though, because I do feel attracted to a lot of random guys myself (although I wouldn't want to be with them when I have an emotional connection with someone else). It doesn't embarrass me as much anymore (although occasionaly I get a wild hair), but it really gave me great anxiety when I first matured. Naturally, it happens more and more intensly with men I find attractive but sometimes it even happens with men I wouldn't consider right for myself or appropriate (ie. I have a weird phobia of this happening with a young male teacher). It is very embarrasing because I am a self conscious person, but I know its irrational because I'm pretty sure people have no idea.

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    Quote Originally Posted by feisty goddess View Post
    huh? lol. This is not a joke btw, I'm really serious. What I mean by sexually agressive is that I am considerably more focused on sex (or sexual things like kissing flirting etc. not actual intercourse persay if you know what I mean) compared to those around me. Its just that the men around me are kind of "hippy" and are not very dominant and my sex drive looks disproportionate paired with theirs because we typically think of men as being more driven than women. Its a bit hard to explain.
    WOMAN, I AM NOT STOPPING YOU FROM SPEAKING YOUR MIND.
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    I can t make it more of an intellectual answer then did unfortunately, laws of nature prevail.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mjolnir View Post
    WOMAN, I AM NOT STOPPING YOU FROM SPEAKING YOUR MIND.

    If there ever was a god, Hallelujah!

    I can t make it more of an intellectual answer then did unfortunately, laws of nature prevail.

    You go and speak your mind
    If this is some sort of humor, I don't get it.

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    I have next to no sex drive. It's a bit complicated, because I've pleasured myself from a very young age (maybe age 2 or 3), and I still do it very regularly. However, I usually do it out of boredom. I rarely get an urge to do it, and even when I do, I never think about sex when I'm doing it. I never got the whole 'men think about sex 10 times a microsecond' type statements, because I probably don't think about it more than once every 5 months or so.

    I can probably count on one hand the number of times I've been aroused by someone I saw in public in the last 10 years. Hardcore porn is actually a big turn off for me, although some soft porn can arouse me.

    The reason? One might be that I engaged in prone masturbation from an early age and continued into adulthood. It's been documented as having serious sexual (and particularly erectile) repercussions. Another reason might be that I masturbate too frequently. I'm probably too 'empty' to be aroused most of the time.

    But anyway, I agree with you that a lot of asexual people like to take the moral high ground and feel superior to more sexually active people. But the truth is an active sex drive is a good thing, and an inactive one is a disorder.

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