Would You Consider Yourself a Shy Person?

[Northern Paladin]

Would you consider yourself a shy or soft-spoken person? What are your views on shyness? Is it a sign or weakness? Is there any room for shy individuals in the Germanic race?

I consider myself shy and I think it's a good attribute, I attract intelligent individuals for the most part.

[Fyrgenholt]

I was quite shy growing up, but I wouldn't say I am today. I have my moments, but doesn't everyone? What is important is to differentiate between shyness, quietness and reservation. There is certainly a difference between being shy and harbouring the ability to take a step back and to quietly analyse a situation before jumping into something perhaps foolishly. I don't think shyness and timidity are necessarily one and the same, whether or not it is a sign of weakness, though, I am unsure. All things in moderation I guess.

[Wynterwade]

I don't really view shyness as something that is set in stone in a person. Growing up most of my friends were pretty stupid, morally lax, obnoxious and so I had a hard time talking to them. I used to think it was a massive problem with myself- and my friends kept telling me I was too shy, that it was a problem with myself.

But, during college, I've met more people that behave, act and think like myself- and it's much easier to make friends with people like that. You would be surprised how much a person can change just from hanging around a different group of people. Also proper nutrition, working out and better clothing will all make a massive difference on how your perceived and treated by other people. If they perceive you as confident and interesting then it's much easier for them to make friends with you.

Yeah I was shy but now I'm not.

It has its advantages in the sense that I had a hard time hanging around the wrong groups of people.

[William Frost]

I don't think shyness is always to be viewed as a sign of weakness. To quote the Havamal.

"Let no man glory in the greatness of his mind,
but rather keep watch o'er his wits.
Cautious and silent let him enter a dwelling;
to the heedful comes seldom harm,
for none can find a more faithful friend
than the wealth of mother wit."

[hyidi]

Very very shy.
I feel shyness is a weakness to wards preserving you're race...but I can't help my genetics of being shy..... Too Reproduce... you need to be out and about,
I do think the INTERNET has made people more shy.

[Wynterwade]

Heerss,
Don't be so critical of yourself. I think shyness is more of a state of mind rather than a personality you carry your whole life. I have changed shyness in my life and I'm sure you can too. Change the group of people you hang out with (read my last post and my next paragraph for that) and grow a positive attitude (ego).

But Heerss this part is vastly more important,
You said that in order to date you have to be out and about. I couldn't disagree more. I don't think you've realized the positives of the internet. I am very picky with who I date, and the internet is the best option. I honestly don't understand why anybody would want to find dates in real life- it's like playing poker with who you might meet day by day. On the internet you have a selection of thousands of people. It's the best place for somebody picky like me; I made a long checklist of traits I want in somebody.

[starprincess]

It really depends on the situation I am in at the time.

I am generally shy when I am first meeting someone, but then once I get a feel of the other person and feel like I have a place to involve myself in the conversation (if appropriate), then I will jump in. LOL and generally the first things that I say come off as "off the wall", but then they just laugh it off and think its cute! LOL, because I am confident in myself and what I am talking about, and others get that sense, and are comfortable with it too.

I have always been told that I am quiet and soft-spoken, which I actually am. I tend to smile quite a lot and I always seem to laugh. I shy in big crowds of people that I do not know, LOL then once I am in a comfort zone, its like you cannot get me to shut up! hahaha!

[hyidi]

I am very picky with who I date, and the internet is the best option. I honestly don't understand why anybody would want to find dates in real life- it's like playing poker with who you might meet day by day. On the internet you have a selection of thousands of people. It's the best place for somebody picky like me; I made a long checklist of traits I want in somebody.

I see what you mean by choosing only the ones that match you're idol..........

I feel like that the internet cyb-er sex thing is replacing our sexual encounters (which is natural) with our own kind..this is not helping us with the Germanic race.
Also by communicating with people over the net we lose our instinct to court each other in real life.
What I mean is that we go more shy when we encounter people outside of the internet..so we opt to communicate with pele over the INTERNET causing less chance of reproduction...shyness is causing less reproduction?

I have read you're last post,thank you.

[Alice]

Yes, very much so! Sometimes others misinterpret my reserve and silence as aloofness, snobbery or disinterest, especially in the United States or in Spanish and Portuguese-speaking countries. I think temperament is inherited to some degree, because my mother and father have similar personality traits.

[Gareth Lee Hunter]

As an INTJ personality type, I am reserved, but hardly shy.

For example, while I rarely initiate a conversation with strangers I meet, I am not averse to participating in a friendly chat if they choose to speak to me first.

Being shy to a point where it prevents one from achieving personal and economic satisfaction is an affliction that needs to be professionally addressed... After all, humans are social animals that normally interact for the benefit of each other. No one is a self-sufficient island.