Many women are saying,
don't get married because marriage will kill the lovelife.
That sex after marriage becomes more and more rare,
and life together less interesting.
Opinions?
Many women are saying,
don't get married because marriage will kill the lovelife.
That sex after marriage becomes more and more rare,
and life together less interesting.
Opinions?
My Opinion? It's bullshit. I'm married and believe me, the "lovelife" didn't end. Marriage is just a piece of paper anyway, the reality of it is two people living together and supporting each other. And who says you can't have sex? Who is stopping you? Such bullshit is told by people who are afraid of long term relationships. That's what a marriage is afterall. If you want to play around all your life, of course you're scared of commitment.
I have been married many years. And, I have never suffered the loss ofOriginally Posted by Jael
"Love-life", even at my age. My DSW & I enjoy it greatly......
There are many things I could say.......But don't want to give TMI.
Too Much Information is not good to share.
But, Doctors will tell you.........200 a year is "Healthy for you".
I don't think you can have too much.
Marriage makes it even better actually. The feeling of sharing everything with your loved one.
I have been married for almost 14 years. Sex slows down at certain times... like the six weeks after a birth... but other than that.
Marriage is great, I recommend it to anyone who wants to be serious about their love. People who are shacked up can expect cheating and to split up over nothing. Taking an oath in front of everyone I knew and all my wife's people made me a better man (in fact, it made me a man).
I've been married for 35 years. Sex? That's Swedish for six.
No marriage doesnt kill lovelife. the problem might be things that distract you from marriage. (aging, oher attractions to people, money)
orelse if you dont let those things distract love then youre fine
and the best thing is that you feel like you've achieved something once youre over those distructions. thats why people make vows.
Marriage per se doesn't kill love life, an unhappy marriage however does. I noticed two different trends in terms of marriage: people will either rush into Hollywood type marriages, or they won't marry at all. Both are too extreme IMO, we can also notice a downfall of the traditional family which is IMO not accidental. Traditional marriage has become more the exception than the rule...
"Tradition doesn't mean holding on to the ashes, it means passing the torch."
- Thomas Morus (1478-1535)
I think good communication is the key. Naturally there will be seasons during marriage that the desire and frequency of sex with rise and fall, especially after children come. But there should not be any reason that both husband and wife can't ensure that the other's needs are met, while at the same time practicing patience with each other.
Coming from a failed marriage I can only say that lack of love life is a indicator that there is problem(s). You both can choose to fix the problems or let them get worse. Keep in mind though that it takes two to fix things and if the other is unwilling sex or love life becomes a chore and you are only going through the motions and not really fixing the problems and it is probably best to go separate ways.
Nothing is worse than a loveless marriage even if you want to fix it. The bad part is when the other does not, this can leave you with some serious depression issues and issues dealing with your self worth.
Life is like a fire hydrant- sometimes you help people put out their fires, but most of the time you just get peed on by every dog in the neighborhood.
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