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    Married but Living Apart

    Some people do this nowadays: they get married, but the wife doesn't move in with the husband or vice versa. They each live in their apartment or house. What's your thoughts? A sign of an unhealthy relationship, an acceptable modern trend? I wonder how it works once children come into the picture.

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    This seems rather odd and impractical to me. Paying rent and utilities on two places isn't a very efficient use of income. One partner's housing expenses could be saved for any number of things and at that point rent on two appartments is probably close to a mortgage payment so why not buy a house? The only time this would make any sense to me is if one of them works out of town and it's somehow more cost efficient to rent a cheap appartment to stay at during the week.

    The lack of intimacy in this sort of relationship also seems lacking for a married couple, living apart is asking to grow apart in my opinion. I doubt a relationship like that would make it far enough for children to be an issue, they'd either grow apart since at that point they would spend far more time with their co-workers then each other(making affairs more likely and easy) or they'd decide to move in with each other because living apart didn't work.

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    There are almost no modern trends I find acceptable.. except perhaps the rejection of smoking. This is pure stupidity, if you ask me. What's the point? Unless it's to gain residence in a foreign land.. but then they would need to maintain the charade.

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    I'm not very certain but I think if you want to gain residence in another country you are obligated to live together with your spouse.

    I think it's alright for the beginning of a relationship but not for marriage. Marriage would hint at the intention of starting a family.
    THINK! It's not illegal yet.

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    I have never seen such cases except for when there are professional obligations keeping a couple apart (but only temporarily so).

    Have you seen that? Is this a new trend? I can't think of a reason to get married to someone if you're going to live seperately, unless for green card/visa/financial reasons of course

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    This just negates the entire meaning of a marriage, why would you do so? It is unlikely that children would ever be created in such a pair, or if they were they are unlikely to be his.

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    Hmm, I'm not seeing the point to get married if you aren't ready to share living with your husband/wife. If the presence of the other bothers you, why not stay single? It's just nonsensical in my view.

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