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    I love being a happily married man. I love my family and I cannot imagine being single again. I was so lonely when I was single. I believe that I was destined for the "family man" life since birth, and now I have achieved that. I have some single friends and they just seem to miserable all of the time. Sure, being married can be difficult at times, but I believe that the family unit is integral in the preservation of our Folkway, which is basically the entire premise behind this forum.

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    Are you better off single?

    It probably depends on who you marry.

    I married a great woman, so I say I'm definitely better off married than I was when I was single.

    But I know other people who were less fortunate when they married. They were definitely better off single, even with the advantages marriage brought them.

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    Are you better off single?

    No way! Yeah, sure in alot of ways it was more fun to be single and it's more work to be part of a couple but I wouldn't exchange it for the world. When I finally realized that I was built to be part of a couple I became much more comfortable with myself. All that desperate energy to find someone and be wanted took up so much of my time, was the focus of everything even when I didn't think it was. Now I have the freedom to think beyond my hormones, to live a life worth living, to be part of something greater than my selfish little world. It doesn't make me weak to need a man, the sum of a couple is greater than it's parts (if it's a good pairing). To me healthy Folkishness is to be part of a family as Ewergrin says. I'm sure there are a few exceptions, and one should chose a mate carefully, for positive reasons rather than out of fear of being alone, but men and women were made to be together.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sifsvina
    Are you better off single?

    No way! Yeah, sure in alot of ways it was more fun to be single and it's more work to be part of a couple but I wouldn't exchange it for the world. When I finally realized that I was built to be part of a couple I became much more comfortable with myself. All that desperate energy to find someone and be wanted took up so much of my time, was the focus of everything even when I didn't think it was. Now I have the freedom to think beyond my hormones, to live a life worth living, to be part of something greater than my selfish little world. It doesn't make me weak to need a man, the sum of a couple is greater than it's parts (if it's a good pairing). To me healthy Folkishness is to be part of a family as Ewergrin says. I'm sure there are a few exceptions, and one should chose a mate carefully, for positive reasons rather than out of fear of being alone, but men and women were made to be together.
    WELL SAID! When I think back on the time that I spent as a single young dude, I'm soooo glad that I'm married now. I did wait until I felt mature enough/old enough to handle it, but boy was I ever ready when it happened! I tell my wife all the time that she saved me from single life, because all that desperate energy you mention was really starting to wear me down. I got to the point that I adopted a personal policy of not looking, not trying, not doing anything. I just went with the flow, and not six months later, I was dating the woman who is now my wife and the mother of my children.

    You're right, Sifsvina, man and woman *are* meant to be together. I used to think, even though I always knew I wanted to be married(weird for a guy, huh?), that it would somehow kill all the fun in life, because of the sheer amount of responsibility. Man, was I wrong! Yeah, the bills have to be paid, household maintained, etc., but after all that is taken care of, you have this wonderful person who loves you, is attracted to you physically, and willingly puts up with your crap on a daily basis without running for the hills. What more could a person ask for?

    A co-worker of mine is single at 41, having had some bad marriages in the past, and now has adopted a 'I don't give a crap' attitude towards women and dating. I can understand why, given his personal history, but it really makes me sad to see such an adversarial view of women. Sure, women can be cruel to us sometimes, but then again, so can we.

    I'm glad I don't have to worry about any of that shite anymore.
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    All I have ever known is being single. So it really doesn't bother me. I'm really bad at talking to people and I have problems with human empathy and relating with others. So this will probaly make it hard for me to have a real relationship when I'm older.

    By nature I'm a lone wolf I like being by myself so I voted yes I'm better off single.
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    Study Finds Men Prefer Being Single

    http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080602/...s_bachelors_dc

    Bachelor Carl Weisman got fed up of being classified as a playboy, a loser or a commitment-phobe so he set out to find out exactly why he and a growing number of eligible men were steering clear of marriage.

    Weisman, 49, conducted a survey of 1,533 heterosexual men to research a book aiming to give women an insight into why some smart, successful men opted to stay single -- and help lifelong bachelors understand why they are still the solo man at parties.

    He concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage -- but they were afraid of a bad marriage.

    "Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all," Weisman told Reuters in a telephone interview.

    "This is the first generation of people who have grown up with bad divorces. People assume there is something wrong if you don't marry but these are men who have made a different choice and not given in to social pressures."

    The release of his book "So Why Have You Never Been Married? - Ten Insights into Why He Hasn't Wed," comes amid a growing trend for more people to stay single, with less social or religious pressures on men -- and women -- to tie the knot.

    Weisman said U.S. figures showed that in 1980 about 6 percent of men aged in their early 40s had never married but this number had now risen to 17 percent.

    AFRAID TO MAKE MISTAKES

    Weisman said his online survey found there are three groups of bachelors -- about 8 percent who never want to marry, 62 percent want to marry but of which half won't settle for anything less than perfection, and about 30 percent who are on the fence.

    Four out of 10 bachelors did not want children compared to three out of 10 wanting to be a father. The rest were undecided.

    But while 72 percent of respondents said they were not afraid of marriage, about half of them said the situation that scared them most was marrying the wrong person.

    "It's so important to these men to get it right. My best advice to single women after bachelors is to be patient. If you're in a hurry to get married you'll be frustrated," he said.

    Weisman also found that financial issues, both positive and negative, played a large part in men's fear of commitment.

    "Those with little money said they would have nothing to offer a partner, with some suffering self-esteem issues and withdrawing from the dating pool," said Weisman, an engineer-turned-author with two books now published.

    "While those who are financially sound were terrified what a bad divorce could do to them."

    Weisman said his research blew away any idea that single men were unhappy.

    "A compelling issue was how many of them had found contentment in a never-married life," he said. "They had created lives full of careers, friends and ambitions. It was not like they walk around all day worried about not being married."
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    8 reasons why women would rather be single..
    http://www.random-good-stuff.com/200...r-stay-single/
    :p
    can't really blame men/women for wanting/enjoying being single.


    Men love their freedom. For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills. The dreaded "C-word" implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety, and the looming specter of financial devastation.

    And the statistics bear this out -- the U.S. Census reports that, over the past four decades, the rate of marriage has definitely been on the decrease.

    According to the National Marriage Project, a study undertaken at Rutgers University, men today are overwhelmingly apprehensive about getting married. Cohabitation -- commitment with an escape hatch -- is on the rise. So what is the explanation for this phenomenon? Just why are men so afraid of commitment these days?

    Here are a few of the reasons:

    No more freedom
    We men are extremely independent by nature. We like to make our own decisions and run our lives by our own rules. We want to do what we want when we want. But when a woman enters the picture, all the choices a guy simply used to take for granted -- going out for a beer with his buddies, buying a big screen TV, playing golf on Saturday afternoon -- suddenly have to be cleared with her first. And her answer is almost always, "No -- we're a couple now" (translation: "We're going to do things my way"). Almost overnight, we find ourselves trapped, doing what she wants to do, regardless of his own wants or desires.

    Loss of space
    We like guy things -- we need "guy space" for stuff like cars, tools and watching kick-ass action flicks. But women want to take over, to "female up" what used to be exclusive male territory with frilly drapes and paintings of flowers. In fact, they're so committed to feminizing all the space around them that they quickly start forbidding us to have any guy stuff at all. So suddenly you find the bathroom buried in female products, your leather couch has been reupholstered in pastel paisley, and the spot where you kept your tools has blossomed into an indoor herb garden.

    One sex partner, forever
    We naturally crave sexual variety. When we commit -- either in marriage or cohabitation -- we willingly volunteer to cut ourselves off from any other sexual pursuits. Sexual boredom can set in, followed by a total lack of desire. For a lot of us -- even guys who weren't getting a lot of action anyway -- this can be the scariest consequence of all.

    We've been burned, she's a closet nag, she wants it all, and wait, it gets even worse...

    We've been burned before
    When we've been divorced and run through the wringer of the female-biased court system, many of us are reluctant (read "terrified") to risk a second commitment. Nowadays, we aren't exactly chomping at the bit to sign a contract legally allowing a woman to clean us out financially. Successful achievers -- those of us who have built companies and high-powered careers from the ground up -- are especially afraid of being forced to hand over all the fruits of our hard labor to a greedy female and may make the decision never to get involved in a serious relationship again.

    The emotional baggage
    Many women look at marriage through Cinderella eyes -- for them, putting a ring on their fingers means that we will magically solve all their problems, from childhood issues with their fathers to huge shopping debts incurred on credit cards. Women often submerge their true personalities and agendas until the knot is tied -- but when the truth comes out and the we find ourselves legally bound to a greedy, nagging bitch, it's too late.

    Lack of compromise
    Commitment implies the ability to compromise -- ideally a marriage should be a 50/50 partnership in which each half contributes and shares equally. But to a woman, "compromise" often means "do it my way or you're cut off from sex." So we are forced into surrendering to this sexual blackmail if we want to get any sex at all, and the result is a terrible loss of male power.

    Loss of free time
    Serious relationships suck up an enormous amount of time and energy -- they can entirely take over our lives. The pressure is always on to do something, be it wine and dine her, interact with her family, remember her birthday, or pick her up from work. For some of us, all the bother just isn't worth the effort.

    Not ready for it
    These days, there are fewer societal pressures to marry and we can weigh our options instead of just jumping directly from school into marriage. We can afford to wait for that perfect woman while we concentrate on getting our careers off the ground, save to buy a house, or actively play the field.

    Can't trust a woman
    We learn pretty fast that many women can't be trusted -- they're always looking to upgrade, to latch onto a man with more money, more status and more stuff to sex-ploit. Commitment to a relationship means putting your heart on the line, and none of us want a sharp stiletto heel spiking us in the back as our ex-girlfriend scrambles over us to get to the next guy.

    She applies pressure
    For a lot of women, commitment is the finish line for their adult lives. They want to get married and they want to do so now . So they exert increasing pressure on us to settle down -- pressure that can cause us to pack up and leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CrystalRose
    Men love their freedom. For many guys, the very thought of making a commitment to one woman for the rest of their lives is enough to send them sprinting for the hills. The dreaded "C-word" implies compromise, loss of independence, the sacrifice of sexual variety, and the looming specter of financial devastation.

    [...]
    IMO, basically this whole article is just a comical admittance that both sexes have regressed severely in their relative levels of maturity. It is perfectly okay (and advisable) to be cautious in mate selection, but this isn't the reason being given here -- just the opposite, commitment is abhorred because it might obstruct uncautious encounters (i.e. "variety"). Sexual promiscuity and lack of commitment are characteristic of lower races. American society is starting to resemble the primitive, jungle-like cultures found in African countries more and more with each passing day...

    FYI, even though both sexes today are more immature and self-centered, this doesn't give men an excuse to act irresponsibly. Accepting responsibility without complaint or self-pity is one of the key elements to real manhood.

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    There are so many opportunities out there these days that people are finding less and less need to settle down and reproduce.

    It's a real pity.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rainraven View Post
    There are so many opportunities out there these days that people are finding less and less need to settle down and reproduce.

    It's a real pity.
    I agree.

    People need to get over themselves and their selfish attitudes and see a relationship through - through the good times and the bad.

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