View Poll Results: guys, do you ever cry?

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  • almost never, but I have shead a few tears in my life

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  • never, it's downright weak

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Thread: Men, Do You Cry? / Should Husbands Hide Weakness?

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    Men, Do You Cry? / Should Husbands Hide Weakness?

    Should a husband demonstrate weakness in front of his wife? Cry? Share his fears and doubts? Or should he hide these things from her?

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    I think it is a man's duty to be mentally strong and in control of himself. That way, there will always be at least one person in a family on whom you can rely on in tough situations, a pillar of strenght if you will. I would rely on what our fathers and their fathers and fathers fathers etc. have taught us, the example they have set for us to follow, as it has obviously been to our advantage in the past. To alter the role of the father, to fit into the modern ideal of what a man should be, I think is the wrong way to go.

    The old way of doing things surely had its flaws, but it worked, and no modern concept or idea of what manhood should be will be flawless, it will simply result in new flaws, flaws that might be damaging in ways we cannot forsee at the present. We know what we have, but not what we get.

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    It is quite simple.
    Quote Originally Posted by aamed View Post
    Should a husband demonstrate weakness in front of his wife?
    No.
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    Cry?
    No.
    Quote Originally Posted by aamed View Post
    Share his fears and doubts?
    No.
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    Or should he hide these things from her?
    Yes.






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    I agree with the posts above. A man should do his best to be a man and suck it up. Displays of weakness and crying are for women and children. It's a father's job to grin and bear it so that his family knows they can rely on him in times of trouble.
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    From a women's point of view I want to say that I don't think a husband should necessarily hide his emotions from his wife. Isn't a wife's job to be there for her husband, love him and stand by him? Well, if it is then I think a tough ole' girl can handle that. What I don't think is good tho, would be a sappy man, whining and crying all the time. That would probably turn a women away.

    I don't think it can be healthy tho for anyone to hold in feelings.
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    A cry baby or whiner, no. An emotionless statue only works in fiction or a bad relationship. Just being a normal human man, sure dont see why a man wouldnt or shouldnt. Even Caesar, Hercules and Jesus had at one time wept.

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    He shouldn't hide his feelings no, if there is trouble then he should tell her as it may be that she has a solution or at least can help him cope. Equally if you know someone that well there is no way that they can hide their emotions successfully from you, she will sense that something is wrong and it will only worry her if he refuses to tell what it is.
    However I do believe that he should hide it from his children, they need the pillar of support
    Cattle die, kinsmen die,
    the self must also die;
    but glory never dies,
    For the one who is able to achieve it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crimson Guard View Post
    A cry baby or whiner, no. An emotionless statue only works in fiction or a bad relationship. Just being a normal human man, sure dont see why a man wouldnt or shouldnt. Even Caesar, Hercules and Jesus had at one time wept.
    A complete 'emotionless statue' is indeed a fiction, but I think it should be a sort of mythological ideal, and the closer to that the better. Also 'when&where' is an issue: emotional breakdowns, yelling at/arguing with partner, etc is unseemly in public and as Thrymheim said should not be done in front of children.
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    It's a contest to see who's more macho!

    When I think of a relationship I automatically think partner. With partner I think team. And any good team communicates to achieve higher goals. A woman’s 'job' is to be there for her family with support, advice and comfort. I see no problem with sharing feelings or thoughts even if they make you cry. Hiding feelings just leads to a future 'blow up'. It's easier to lay it all out on the table. (I recently did this and I feel great!) And I agree, not in front of children. But you don't want your children to grow up believing that showing any sort of emotion is unnatural either. It's healthy to disagree with people.. and to show them you don't always have to 'like' or 'do' what the other does. If a woman can get emotional around 'that time of the month'.. then so can a guy! They have hormones too!

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    Of course. No one wants someone who's constantly whining and crying, but I have more respect for a man who can actually share his emotions and cry when needed, than for one who can't or won't. In fact, I can't say I have any respect for men who proclaim it's "unmanly" to cry or share emotions. My first thoughts are usually, "Thank God I'd never be in a relationship with you". Then, "I wonder who would even want to date you in the first place"

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