View Poll Results: guys, do you ever cry?

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  • yes, all the time, it's totally natural!

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  • sometimes

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  • almost never, but I have shead a few tears in my life

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  • never, it's downright weak

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Thread: Men, Do You Cry? / Should Husbands Hide Weakness?

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    I do not really understand men who cry over situations short of a family member dying. I feel that a man with a positive outlook will not have to "hide" negative emotions from anyone, simply because he feels them seldom anyway. A positive outlook can be counted among the sure signs of a strong man. My own father was the type who always whined about everything, and I do not consider him a strong individual.

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    It depends from who. When the children are very small and vulnerable, it's not a good idea to use them as a shoulder to cry on. But a wife could handle it and such an experience together could act as a closer way of bonding. Whining, venting, ranting, crying is human too and even the strongest of people have bad moments. Asking them to always bottle them up would be selfish, and one day they could explode and it would be worse. Every now and then a man should be allowed to let it all out. Nobody is emotionless, that's reality.

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    Cryin'

    Personally, I don't like to cry in front of women, perhaps just because I never saw my father cry in front of my mother. If anything, he comforted her when she cried. So, probably, this is what I learned as a young one. But, I think some guys use crying and other demonstrations of emotion to appeal to a more primitive urge in women to care for the wounded. And I think they do it quite well. Sad to say, but it seems that when a guy has his stuff together and is calm, cool, and collected, he is anything but appealing to women. I may not be completely correct, but it's just an observation of mine. Sometimes, it seems that guys who have mastery over their lives and emotions just aren't as interesting as the dramatic ones who behave like drama queens. Not a good sign for society when men who have been trained to act like men, to be men, are viewed as less interesting than emos and pretty boys. I have met so many women of my age, or younger, who have children but are divorced or never even got married. My guess is that they had children with men who couldn't handle their responsibilities, maybe they cried when they realized what they were facing. I would advise women to be leery of men who cry incessantly, or have frequent emotional outbursts.

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    I don't remember to have ever seen my father crying, not even once, considering I was always more close to him than to my mother. So I don't think a father should ever show his weaknesses in front of his children. Men, and especially fathers, are supposed to be strong, and responsible, aren't they?

    Sharing fears and doubts? I guess it's naturally, and also good, to discuss things. Even with your children, once they are wise enough, but especially with your wife. I think communicating it's very important.


    Quote Originally Posted by Wanderer View Post
    I think some guys use crying and other demonstrations of emotion to appeal to a more primitive urge in women to care for the wounded. And I think they do it quite well. [...] Sometimes, it seems that guys who have mastery over their lives and emotions just aren't as interesting as the dramatic ones who behave like drama queens. Not a good sign for society when men who have been trained to act like men, to be men, are viewed as less interesting than emos and pretty boys.
    That's what I would call selective breeding of the less worthy. No wonder if the future generations will be less and less responsible and in control of their own lives.
    I agree men have feelings too, but I personally don't like guys who tend to literally cry on my shoulder and to complain about everything almost every time I see them. There should be some limits. And some self-control, as well. But I don't like the other extreme either, I mean guys who pose as intangible gods (just because they are not: usually they just try to hide their weaknesses under a false mask).
    With those behaviours which really seem to become more and more popular nowadays, it seems like the real men may perish from the future. Hopefully it won't happen, as there's still time to change things.

    I just consider men should be honest to their feelings, and still be men.
    Die Farben duften frisch und grün... Lieblich haucht der Wind um mich.

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    The only time crying in front of a girlfriend is acceptable is if she happens to be in the room when you accidentally slam your tender-bits in a drawer. During the courting phase I would caution any man against such displays of distemper.

    Crying in front one's wife is not acceptable unless someone dear to you both is dead, and only then away from others. Crying because you lost your job or got arrested will only make a man look less stable than before.

    Crying, or other extreme emotional displays for that matter, in front of girls I know cause them to view the man as unstable or weak. Even loss of temper is not going to garner the affections of a lady to a male.

    Men, if you are involved with a woman is trying to provoke such emotions in you (jealousy, sadness, etc.) avoid the little manipulator altogether and find a lady who doesn't need a puppet.

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    I never saw my father cry and I've never cried in front of my children. I don't think it would be appropriate. Children need someone they can rely on. Someone has to be strong for them and that someone should be the man. I haven't felt like crying in a very long time, but if I did, I would do it privately, away from my loved ones.

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    I can never remember seeing my father cry either.I was always told that crying
    was for women and that men who cried were pussies.My mother also felt this
    way and I remember one time I came home crying after school and she let me
    have it.My parents also instilled this lesson in me as well.I was told that "If I
    ever started a fight,they(My Parents) would kick my a$$.But if I ever walked away from a fight,they would kick my a$$ as well.
    Love in my family was of the tough kind.I always thought when I was a kid I
    was being mistreated.But as an adult,I know what they where talking about.
    Life is hard and you have to be somewhat calloused to deal with all its walls
    and webs.

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    Men, Do You Cry?

    I'll admit it, it doesn't take much for me to shed a tear or two, and yes I am a guy. A good movie, a good book, a sublime song have all made me cry in the past. I don't consider it a sign of weakness or strength, it's just how I am

    How do you feel about men and crying?

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    Whenever i see Billy Connoly,yes.....but with laughter if that counts.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GSV9MhHUYeM

    As for men crying...well we English are taught to bottle things up and keep it all in etc and leave all that crying and thrashing around in paroxims of emotion to the latin peoples.
    I think to see man cry other than at a funeral is not a good thing.

    The modern man and his outpourings of tears at the death of princess Diana etc or some other such event with public grieving makes me wretch.....grown men crying like little girls should be given fifty lashes to harden them up a bit.....rant over.

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    Yeah, I'm an emotional guy. I don't see it as a strength or weakness either. It's just the way I'm wired. I'd be embarrassed to cry in public, though. Thankfully, it's never happened.

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