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Jack
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 12:11 PM
A girl asked me out today (Yes Marla, the same one as... ugh). I said no to her (the fact that she's a female and weighs as much as I do (i.e. 67kg), and she's not aesthetically appealing, and I don't think she's got an IQ over 110 (Yes I do select for IQ) is why), but I'm not asking whether I should've gone out with her or not - the decision is already made.

The question is: Is it normal for girls to ask guys if they'd go out with them?? :| I thought something was a bit wierd...

On a side note: Everything I've heard of up until now indicates it's usually the male that asks out the female.

Milesian
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 12:24 PM
It's fairly normal here. In fact I prefer the girl to ask me out and that's usually what has happened in my relationships.
I've only ever asked a girl out once, she accepted but after about six months I knew neither of us were really interested.
On the other hand, a girl once followed me about town all day, pleading for us to go out, dumped her boyfriend and started crying when I refused her. Eventually I felt sorry for her and agreed to a date. Funnily enough, we ended up in a 3 year relationship and she's probably the first person I actually loved. But I didn't think much of her at the start. I only grew to love her over time.

Moral of this story is - If a girl likes you enough, she'll ask you out.
If you have to ask her out, she doesn't like you enough ;) :D

Milesian
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 12:29 PM
*PS - "Big girls" are always horny. Must be all that Estrogen in the fatty tissue ;)

sciath
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 12:49 PM
A girl asked me out today (Yes Marla, the same one as... ugh). I said no to her (the fact that she's a female and weighs as much as I do (i.e. 67kg), and she's not aesthetically appealing, and I don't think she's got an IQ over 110 (Yes I do select for IQ) is why), but I'm not asking whether I should've gone out with her or not - the decision is already made.

The question is: Is it normal for girls to ask guys if they'd go out with them?? :| I thought something was a bit wierd...

On a side note: Everything I've heard of up until now indicates it's usually the male that asks out the female.

Social scientists (specially specialists of non-verbal communication and body language) have discovered that most of time dozens of non-verbal signs were sent by the female to make the male asks out. This is unconscious. That's why the male beliveves he is the first to move. But the female has already caught you :D :D

Mistress Klaus
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 12:57 PM
*PS - "Big girls" are always horny. Must be all that Estrogen in the fatty tissue ;)

'Big Girls' meaning big breasted or just plain fat?
If you mean fat girls..that is a crock of shit. Alot of fat girls don't find sex that appealing at all....but then again I have met a few that would drop their huge bloomers for any guy (only because they are desperate). Actually the weight or boob size does not affect the level of the sex drive, everybody is different.

I have never had to ask a man out & I would never do it either. I know all about being confronted in the street...(bloody idiots...as if I would actually call them up! he he...no poor blokes..I won't be cruel... it is nice for the ego at times :D )

Demigorgona
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:05 PM
I think guys should make the first move, that might be just me, but i would never ask a guy out. If a guy doesnt have the balls to ask me then he doesnt deserve me. :)

sciath
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:05 PM
I have never had to ask a man out & I would never do it either.)

Maybe but you probably send strong non-verbal signs (inconscious most of time) that leads the guy to you. I have been observing that in bars for years.
Even the men do that unconsciuosly. When they see an attractive chick they tend to elevate and show their chest (exactly like other animals do).

Milesian
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:12 PM
'Big Girls' meaning big breasted or just plain fat?
If you mean fat girls..that is a crock of shit. Alot of fat girls don't find sex that appealing at all....but then again I have met a few that would drop their huge bloomers for any guy (only because they are desperate). Actually the weight or boob size does not affect the level of the sex drive, everybody is different.

I have never had to ask a man out & I would never do it either. I know all about being confronted in the street...(bloody idiots...as if I would actually call them up! he he...no poor blokes..I won't be cruel... it is nice for the ego at times :D )

No, I meant plain fat. Big-breasted girls can have their pick of the men :D
Well, it's been my experience that fat girls account for about 90% of the offers us guys get, I assumed that it's because they are ultra-horny, but maybe they can smell what we've had for dinner lingering on our clothes or something LOL!

Another reason I dislike asking girls out is that there are a lot of "bitches" out there (for want of a better word) who like nothing more than simultaneously making their boyfriends jealous while massaging their ego's when they are out by giving guys the come on and then when they start chatting to them, the boyfriend comes back from the bar, none to happy :)
I've seen it happen to pals several times. Their problem is that they don't learn their lesson. Also, I wouldn't like to continually come back to find some stranger chatting to my girlfriend. Shows a lack of respect to me.
I wouldn't do it to another guy and his girl, cause I wouldn't like it done to me.

I find it far better to get familiar with a girl first, and find out what type of person she is like and then base your decision on that, rather than just approaching a total stranger.

That said, being accosted on the street by a nice-looking girl is rather good for the self-esteem, admittedly :)

Milesian
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:14 PM
I think guys should make the first move, that might be just me, but i would never ask a guy out. If a guy doesnt have the balls to ask me then he doesnt deserve me. :)

My feelings exactly......except about women ;)

Sigrun Christianson
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:19 PM
I agree with sciath. It's a woman's job to make the man thinks he chose her and made the first move. ;)

No, I wouldn't ask out a man.

Gesta Bellica
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:27 PM
It's fairly normal here. In fact I prefer the girl to ask me out and that's usually what has happened in my relationships.
I've only ever asked a girl out once, she accepted but after about six months I knew neither of us were really interested.
On the other hand, a girl once followed me about town all day, pleading for us to go out, dumped her boyfriend and started crying when I refused her. Eventually I felt sorry for her and agreed to a date. Funnily enough, we ended up in a 3 year relationship and she's probably the first person I actually loved. But I didn't think much of her at the start. I only grew to love her over time.

Moral of this story is - If a girl likes you enough, she'll ask you out.
If you have to ask her out, she doesn't like you enough ;) :D

In Italy is 99% the guy who makes the first move.
maybe we are quicker than girls :D

No, honestly i think that in Italy the male and female roles in a couple life are still separste in some way, expecially in a social life contest.
The guy is always the chevalier servant, he usually always take his car for going out, he calls on the phone first etc
if an Italian girl is asking you out or she is desperate or you're Brad Pitt :D

Mistress Klaus
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:37 PM
I must be giving off some strong sexual waves, as I swear I do not intentionally set out, pose, nor dress to attract the opposite sex when I go out through the day (I do of course dress differently when I go out at night to gigs, clubs etc...but for myself..not to get a man..I have one)....I attract men like shit to flies...I am not being arrogant either...it can be a pain in the arse sometimes, but I am never a bitch to males that ask me out....maybe that is the problem??...or just Scorpion sex appeal.... :dwink

Sigrun Christianson
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 01:39 PM
I attract men like shit to flies...
Probably not the best phrase to use when describing yourself. ;)

Mistress Klaus
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 02:20 PM
Probably not the best phrase to use when describing yourself. ;)

Ha ha I know...maybe like bees to a flower?...he he...my damn rough Aussie way of saying things. :sun

Gladstone
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 06:05 PM
Maybe but you probably send strong non-verbal signs (inconscious most of time) that leads the guy to you. I have been observing that in bars for years.

I read an article about that once and it is true. One unconsciouse signal the article mentioned (and I've seen this) is if the woman is interested she starts primping her hair (as if she is wanting to make sure every hair is in place) when you talk to her. After a while some of it does get obvious if you observe...even if it's supposed to be unconsciouse on the womans part and unconsciousely received on ours.

Gladstone
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 06:30 PM
A girl asked me out today (Yes Marla, the same one as... ugh). I said no to her (the fact that she's a female and weighs as much as I do (i.e. 67kg), and she's not aesthetically appealing, and I don't think she's got an IQ over 110 (Yes I do select for IQ) is why), but I'm not asking whether I should've gone out with her or not - the decision is already made.

The question is: Is it normal for girls to ask guys if they'd go out with them?? :| I thought something was a bit wierd...

On a side note: Everything I've heard of up until now indicates it's usually the male that asks out the female.

Here in the states it is generally the guy asking the girl out, but it does happen on occasion where the female makes the first move. If she's cute (and not obviously a psycho ala Fatal Attraction ;)) go for it!

bocian
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 06:39 PM
Is 67 kg fat? Maybe if she's less than 5 feet tall. 60 - 70 kg is just fine for women 160-180 cm tall. Unless you're talking about underdevoloped little girls.

Personally I like women with curves, nicely developed breasts, bum, hips, thighs.
On the other hand women that look like boys (180cm, 50 kg ) are hardly attractive.

BTW, there is nothing wrong with a girl asking out a boy.

A Woman asking out a Man is a little bit of a different story, but certainly not Taboo.

cosmocreator
Friday, February 20th, 2004, 08:48 PM
I've had girls ask me to be their boyfriend. I've had girls ask me point plank if I would f**k them. Not unusually at all for me anyway.