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Thursday, October 7th, 2004, 12:56 AM
Is This the Real Reason Wives Cheat?

It's not marital boredom or that cute guy in the next cubicle that's to blame for illicit love affairs. The real reason wives cheat is they may be genetically programmed to be unfaithful to their partner, the BBC News Online reports of a sure-to-be-controversial study from a British researcher.

You won't believe how many wives cheat on their husbands!

Professor Tim Spector of the Twin Research Unit at St. Thomas' Hospital in London says he has real evidence there is a genetic component to infidelity. For the purposes of his study, he focused exclusively on women. Using twins, he concluded that if one of a pair of twins had a history of infidelity, the chances her sister would also stray were about 55 percent. In addition, Spector found that the tendency for both twins to be either faithful to their spouse or an adulterer was strongest in identical twins, who also have identical genes. By comparison, it's estimated that about 23 percent of married women are unfaithful.

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Although Spector admitted that genes aren't everything--social factors are just as strong a determinant of whether a woman will cheat on her husband--he insisted to the BBC that it makes good sense in evolutionary terms to get a good mix of genes and for women to choose a better option if one came along.

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So is there an infidelity gene? Even Spector won't go that far. "There is unlikely to be a single gene for anything like this," he told the BBC News Online. "But there are likely to be genes that participate in it, a number of genes working together; it might be things like risk-taking or those associated with personality."

Husbands, beware. Cheating wives are most likely to have one of four types of affairs. And here's a shocker: Most will feel no guilt!

Thursday, October 7th, 2004, 01:01 AM
Wives Who Cheat: Guilt-Free Affairs

Husbands, beware. It's quite possible your wife is cheating on you AND she feels no guilt.

At least one study claims that more than half of all wives cheat on their husbands at some point in their marriage. Those were the eyebrow-raising findings of a team of German researchers from the Hamburg-based GEWIS Institute for Social Research. Reuters reports that in a survey of 1,427 men and women between the ages of 25 and 35, fully 53 percent of women said they had been unfaithful to their partner, compared with 59 percent of men.

But surely they must feel guilty? Wrong. Susan Shapiro Barash, a gender studies professor at Marymount Manhattan College, interviewed 50 women who cheated on their husbands. She says 90 percent felt no guilt, a finding that even surprised her. "They felt very entitled and felt entitled because they had been so unhappy in the marriage. It's a fantasy, it's just much more liberating," she explained recently on ABC's "Good Morning America."

Barash wrote all about it in "A Passion for More: Wives Reveal the Affairs that Make or Break Their Marriages." She said that while 65 percent of the cheating wives said sex was better with their lover than their husband, fully 45 percent of the cheaters stayed married despite their affairs.

Why do wives cheat? Barash told "Good Morning America," "Often the lover is actually a catalyst to leave the marriage and a bridge to the other side." In her book, she says that extramarital affairs can liberate a woman, reawaken her desire, and sometimes help save a marriage.

Barash has identified four types of affairs that she describes in "A Passion For More":
Empowering Affairs
With more opportunities for women in all aspects of life, they have increased experience of younger men and of workplace affairs.

Sex-Driven Affairs
The marriage becomes old and sex declines. This type of affair compensates for that lack. It is by definition the most passionate, lacking boundaries or rules and can almost seem like an out-of-body experience for the woman.

Love Affairs
Unanticipated and heartbreaking, these affairs happen when women least expect them. Often they break up the marriage or are used as a wake-up call for the husband to battle for his wife to stay.

Self-Esteem Affairs
Consumed with the responsibilities of child care and household duties, women have lost their way. A lover makes them feel special in a way their husbands do not.

Why do wives have affairs? Because they can. There is attraction. There is proximity. There is opportunity. Husbands, beware.

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