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Saturday, November 10th, 2018, 07:48 AM
Is Faroese Silence Rude?

Today I said goodbye to Threes Anna a Dutch writer and film director (view her website here: www.threesanna.com). She leaves tonight with the ferry Norrna after having done research for three weeks in the Faroe Islands for a future novel.

Threes Anna and I have met four times while she was here and we have talked a lot about the Faroes and the Faroese people. Yesterday we talked about the fact that she had sent Emails to a lot of Faroese people prior to coming to the islands but she got no answer back from most of them.

She was not complaining about it only wondering how it could be, because at first glance it seems like a rude way to behave but when she had met some of these people they turned out to be really nice and sweet people. So she asked if this was a special Faroese phenomena.

It got me thinking. I have heard other foreigners say exactly the same thing. So here are my thoughts about Faroese silence I wrote it in an Email to Threes this afternoon:

Its true that the Faroese often choose just to say nothing (like not answering Emails!) because thats (in their opinion) the safest way to behave. They really dont think that their opinion matters that much to anyone else. So they choose just to say nothing. Then there is nothing to argue about either. Writing is even more dangerous because you cant see (or foresee) the reaction of the receiver, so people prefer to meet in person before they say anything.

This often proves to function well locally in the Faroes, where nobody expects anything else and people easily bump into each other by chance all the time. Here people also have developed a kind of silent body language between them. They read each other by their body language and thereby know what other people think (or at least they think they know). There is no need for saying that much.

The old men sitting on the bench by the harbour can sit there beside each other all day long saying nothing and still think they communicated very well! :-)

But this does not work in the rest of the world! That is what people here will have to understand IF they want to make other people feel more welcome, they need to be better at communicating with words!

I think, though, that the young people understand this better. Many younger people are much more outgoing than the older people. If you had met Sunneva from the bar Sirkus you would have met an example of exactly that.

Social interaction is casual, quiet, and emotionally subdued, with an emphasis on consensus and sociability. The pace of conversation, especially among men, is slow and deliberate. Only one person speaks at a time. Status differentials are muted. Although most public interaction is between men and men, women and women, and age mates, there is no explicit impediment to interaction across genders and ages. People do not publicly greet or otherwise take notice of one another unless they have something to discuss. Casual conversations are initiated and closed with expressions such as "Good day" and "Farewell" without such formalities as handshaking or kissing. People face each other slightly obliquely, and men often stand shoulder to shoulder. Children often stare at strangers; adults do not. Much interaction takes place during casual visits to someone's house. One enters without knocking and removes one's shoes inside the door. The housewife offers something to eat and drink, saying " Ver so g[ur] " or " Ger so vl " ("Be so good"). On finishing, one says " Manga takk " ("Many thanks"). " Vl gagnist " ("May it serve you well"), she replies.
Read more: https://www.everyculture.com/Cr-Ga/Faroe-Islands.html#ixzz5WR51CQSe

Uwe Jens Lornsen
Saturday, November 10th, 2018, 09:55 PM
Words have Consequences ...

Who does not speak much , does not lie much .

It is difficult to remember exactly , and speak data exactly 100% .