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Saturday, December 5th, 2009, 03:31 AM
GOD: Most people believe if they "have" a thing (more time, money, love -- whatever), then they can finally "do" a thing (write a book, take up a hobby, go on vacation, buy a home, undertake a relationship), which will allow them to "be" a thing (happy, peaceful, content, or in love). In actuality, they are reversing the Be-Do-Have paradigm. In the universe as it really is (as opposed to how you think it is), "havingness" does not produce "beingness," but the other way around.

First you "be" the thing called "happy" (or "knowing," or "wise," or "compassionate," or whatever), then you start "doing" things from this place of beingness -- and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always wanted to "have."

The way to set this creative process (and that's what this is...the process of creation) into motion is to look at what it is you want to "have," ask yourself what you think you would "be" if you "had" that, then go right straight to being. In this way you reverse the way you've been using the Be-Do-Have paradigm -- in actuality, set it right -- and work with, rather than against, the creative power of the universe. Here is a short way of stating this principle:
In life, you do not have to do anything. It's all a question of what you are being.
This is one of the three messages I will touch on again at the end of our dialogue. I will close the book with it. For now, and to illustrate this, think of a person who just knows that if he could only have a little more time, a little more money, or a little more love, he'd be truly happy.

NEAL: He does not get the connection between his "not being very happy" right now and his not having the time, money, or love he wants.

GOD: That's right. On the other hand, the person who is "being" happy seems to have time to do everything that's really important, all the money that's needed, and enough love to last a lifetime.

NEAL: He finds he has everything he needs to "be happy"...by "being happy" to begin with!

GOD: Exactly. Deciding ahead of time what you choose to be produces that in your experience.

NEAL: "To be, or not to be. That is the question."

GOD: Precisely. Happiness is a state of mind. And like all states of mind, it reproduces itself in physical form. There's a statement for a refrigerator magnet:
"All states of mind reproduce themselves."
NEAL: But how can you "be" happy to begin with, or "be" anything you are seeking to be -- more prosperous, for instance, or more loved -- if you are not having what you think you need in order to "be" that?

GOD: Act as if you are, and you will draw it to you. What you act as if you are, you become.

NEAL: In other words, "Fake it until you make it."

GOD: Something like that, yes. Only you can't really be "faking." Your actions have to be sincere." Everything you do, do out of sincerity, or the benefit of the action is lost. This is not because I won't "reward you." God does not "reward" and "punish," as you know. But Natural Law requires the body, mind, and spirit to be united in thought, word, and action for the process of creation to work.

You cannot fool your mind. If you are insincere, your mind knows it, and that's that. You've just ended any chance that your mind can help you in the creative process. You can, of course, create without your mind -- it's just a great deal more difficult. You can ask your body to do something your mind doesn't believe, and if your body does it long enough, your mind will begin to let go of its former thought about that, and create a New Thought. Once you have a New Thought about a thing, you're well on your way to creating it as a permanent aspect of your being, rather than something you're just acting out.

This is doing things the hard way, and even in such instances, that action must be sincere. Unlike what you can do with people, you cannot manipulate the universe. So here we have a very delicate balance. The body does something in which the mind does not believe, yet the mind must add the ingredient of sincerity to the body's action for it to work.

NEAL: How can the mind add sincerity when it does not "believe in" what the body is doing?

GOD: By taking out the selfish element of personal gain.

NEAL: How?

GOD: The mind may not be able to sincerely agree that the actions of the body can bring you that which you choose, but the mind seems very clear that God will bring good things through you to another. Therefore, whatever you choose for yourself, give to another.

NEAL: Would You say that again, please?

GOD: Of course. Whatever you choose for yourself, give to another. If you choose to be happy, cause another to be happy. If you choose to be prosperous, cause another to prosper. If you choose more love in your life, cause another to have more love in theirs. Do this sincerely -- not because you seek personal gain, but because you really want the other person to have that -- and all the things you give away will come to you.

NEAL: Why is that so? How does that work?

GOD: The very act of your giving something away causes you to experience that you have it to give away. Since you cannot give to another something you do not now have, your mind comes to a new conclusion, a New Thought, about you --namely, that you must have this, or you could not be giving it away.

This New Thought then becomes your experience. You start "being" that. And once you start "being" a thing, you've engaged the gears of the most powerful creation machine in the universe -- your Divine Self. Whatever you are being, you are creating.

The circle is complete, and you will create more and more of that in your life. It will be made manifest in your physical experience.

This is the greatest secret of life.

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Saturday, December 5th, 2009, 09:07 AM
First you "be" the thing called "happy" (or "knowing," or "wise," or "compassionate," or whatever), then you start "doing" things from this place of beingness -- and soon you discover that what you are doing winds up bringing you the things you've always wanted to "have."

What if you are born into a situation that does not allow you to "Be Happy", or "have anything" until you "do something"?

Saturday, December 12th, 2009, 08:16 PM
You can still decide to be happy, and then all else will follow. At least I think that's the gist of the article.

Regardless of your situation by 'being' what you want whether that is happy or what ever you have decided to succeed. A situation might be more difficult for you to make that decision but it's still an internal struggle and not an external one.

Saturday, December 12th, 2009, 11:40 PM
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This is a really great website which summarizes in a clear way all those notions of 'reality creation' through conscious focus:

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Successful reality creation comes through the following 5 steps:

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The visualization techniques outlined here will enable you to harness the creative power of your thoughts to change your circumstances and consciously choose the life you create. There are five basic steps to visualizing your choices for reality creation: Relax - Imagine - Feel - Believe - Detach. Click on each step to learn more.

Step 1 - Relax: (http://forums.skadi.net/redirector.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mind-your-reality.com%2Fcreative_visualization_1.h tml) The first step is to relax your body and empty your mind. Find a comfortable seat, sit upright, breathe deeply and steadily, count down slowly from 25 to 1 while relaxing all your muscle groups from head to toe. Empty your mind by focusing on your breathing.

Step 2 - Imagine: (http://forums.skadi.net/redirector.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mind-your-reality.com%2Fcreative_visualization_2.h tml) The second step in the creative visualization process is learning to imagine your chosen outcome. Your imagination is the engine of your thoughts. It converts your thought power into mental images. Imagine your ideal reality in the present moment, bring your pictures to life as if watching a movie, concentrate your thoughts with laser like precision and indulge all your senses.

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Step 5 - Detach: (http://forums.skadi.net/redirector.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mind-your-reality.com%2Fcreative_visualization_4.h tml) The fifth and final step in the creative visualization process cannot be emphasized enough - detachment. Detach yourself from the outcome you have chosen to see manifest in your life. Whenever you are attached to someone or something you effectively strip yourself of your authentic power to consciously create the life you choose. You cannot be grateful or feel unconditional love or enjoy peace of mind when you are attached to the unfolding of a specific outcome, so detach, detach, detach.

Practice is Key: You must practice, practice, practice. Set aside a time each day for your creative visualizations, preferably once in the morning upon waking and once in the evening before you go to sleep. Both these times are ideal as your mind is already in a semi-relaxed state. Once you have mastered this simple five step process you will see your life transforming in miraculous ways.

Getting On With It: Once you have completed the process, get on with the rest of your day. To bring yourself back to a normal waking state, simply continue to breathe deeply and rhythmically and count up from 1 to 5 consciously waking yourself from the relaxed state and slowly opening your eyes. Alternatively of course, if you are visualizing while in bed you can allow yourself to drift off to sleep.

Leave the How up to the Universe: The focus of your visualizations must be on the outcome, not the process. Once you accept the Truth about your thought power and that you are one with the One Universal Mind (http://forums.skadi.net/redirector.php?url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mind-your-reality.com%2Funiversal_mind.html) you will be able to release any need to control the process. Instructing the all-knowing Universe "how" you want things to come about is telling Omniscience that you know better.

Take Inspired Action: Although the creative visualization process is one based on relaxation, physical action is required to successfully manifest your mental choices. The key to taking action is to take only inspired action. This is not to sit and wait for the proverbial penny to drop and nor is it to run around in a frenzied state doing everything you can possibly think of doing in the hope that something works. It is about being calm and deliberate in the action you take, knowing that it is taking you toward your chosen outcome. It is about listening to your intuition and following your natural instinct.

The Mind Works With Feedback: The more feedback you give your mind the easier it is to accept and internalise a new concept. If you are new to the idea that you create your reality with your thoughts, then it is natural that your mind may demand some proof. It is a great leap of faith to go from the belief that "things just happen to me" to "I make things happen". This is why it is best to start with something simple.http://www.mind-your-reality.com/creative_visualization.html

Here are some quotes I found on this topic. Sometimes a simple quote makes it easier to get a concept than a whole page:

“The secret of manifestation is that you do not create reality by what you think but by what you feel. Everything is vibration and you attract those things that you are in vibrational resonance with. Your vibration is your feeling. It is your feelings that attract your experiences. The more you experience the feeling of having what you want, the more you will have it. Higher vibrations and feelings is the medium by which your desires will manifest faster. The more positive feelings you can experience about yourself and your desires, the easier and faster you ll experience your desires spontaneously manifesting into your world.”

“Love and forgive. If you harbor negative feelings toward somebody else, the more difficult it will be for you to move on and think of positive things for yourself. If you maintain ill feelings about another person, this means that you are letting him or her control you. Surely you don’t want that, right?”

"Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind."

‘Whatever your mind can conceive and believe your mind can achieve’. Your capacity to believe is your greatest potential asset. Start believing that success to you is inevitable. Whatever task you are given, picture success in your mind. Burn the thought into your subconscious mind. Keep yourself focused on the outcome that you want to achieve in what you do. The mind can achieve anything that it believes and conceives. You will be surprised to know that there is a giant asleep within yourself. You can direct him to do anything that you want. You have no idea what you are capable of. Don’t underestimate yourself. Believe it, the power of your mind and imagination is truly exceptional.”

“Obviously, there is a link running from mind to body. You use your mind to control your body. The link runs in reverse as well. There is a link between body and mind. Exercise the body, you exercise the mind.”

“You are a living magnet. You get what you put your energy and focus on. You just get what you think about, whether wanted or unwanted.”

"Life is a mirror of your consistent thoughts." - Napoleon Hill

“We become what we think about most of the time.”

"You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind." - Darwin P. Kingsley

"You are searching for the magic key that will unlock the door to the source of power; and yet you have the key in your own hands, and you may use it the moment you learn to control your thoughts." - Napoleon Hill

"Most of the value creation that occurs in successful entrepreneurship arises from structuring (creating) new relationships between existing people, ideas and things."

When your desires are strong enough you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve. - Napoleon Hill

"Runners briefly glimpse this power when they go through "the wall." Mountain climbers are touched by it as they scale sheer cliffs. Artists dance with it in those moments when they are truly inspired. Some experience it in that magic moment when they gaze up at a perfect night sky, or drink a glass of cool water on a hot day, or look into the eyes of their beloved. In fact, the real reason moments like these are so extraordinary is because they allow us to experience this special quality that everyone wants - but so few understand. And it's simply this: the amazing power of a quiet mind."

"Learn to live within your means and ask "How can I be of service to others?" Asking this question takes the focus off yourself and your petty desires and places it outward on other people and on helping your local community. Indeed the secret of finding your purpose in life lies in marrying your natural gifts and talents with serving the needs of others. When you do this you will quite naturally be supported financially. You do not need to ask for it. So if you want to know how to sell your work ask, how can I serve my customers better? If you want your marriage to be loving and passionate ask, how can I serve my husband better?"

"We think we are our thoughts... and we are not our thoughts. The brain is addicted to simulating itself with its own content, and it doesn't see the damage in it because it is satisfied by its own actions. But something in us can wake up to be aware of that whole process and then see: "I don't want to eat this anymore. I don't want to eat these thoughts," meaning I don't want to identify with thoughts about people that hurt me. I'm sick of that food. I don't want to worry. I don't want a future because any future that I can want is a creation of a mind that can only want more. The eternal Now, this present moment, is the future."

"Always remember the one basic rule, positive attracts positive. Everything positive you give out will be returned to you in equal or greater quantities. Fill your mind with positive happy thoughts about anything you like, big or small. Remember practice makes perfect, and you and you alone are in control of your own mind."

"Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens." --Kahlil Gibran

“Your reality is the sum of all your thoughts to this point in your life.”

“You get what you focus on”.

"Everything is actually in your favor. It is important that you prove it to yourself, as the effects of this realization are life-transforming. You just need to change your perspective or outlook on life. Notice the good effects that come from everything."

“Whatever thing you desire when you pray, pray as you had already received and you shall have.” – Jesus

"We all get report cards in many different ways, but the real excitement of what you're doing is in the doing of it. It's not what you're gonna get in the end - it's not the final curtain - it's really in the doing it, and loving what you're doing." - Ralph Lauren

"Since the law of attraction is a natural law of the universe it works whether we believe in it or not. The key is to know that. To know that, whatever energy you are emitting through your thoughts will be reflected back to you as your experience. True acceptance and gratitude for your current situation will allow for more to come to you."

"The Infinite Intelligence behind all manifestation is flowing Its abundance into all areas of my life. This abundance is flowing to me greatly. Whatever I need or desire is already mine to claim because Infinite Intelligence operates outside of time and in the Universal Now. And, I, Tony, am a part of this Intelligence because It is All There Is."

"God's wealth is circulating in my life. His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance. All my needs, desires and goals are met instantaneously. For, I am One with God, and God is everything."

"Expect your every need to be met, expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level, expect to grow spiritually. You are not living by human laws. Expect miracles and see them take place. Hold ever before you the thought of prosperity and abundance, and know that doing so sets in motion forces that will bring it into being." ~Eileen Caddy

Saturday, July 17th, 2010, 12:57 PM
I know from personal experiance that be-do-have is definetly the truth. I have also found that knowing this is also way more powerful for helping somebody with problems than psychology (for example) is.

Michael Losier's law of attraction book was the best I've read on the subject.